Do you ever feel like you’re creating a whole load of s**t in your life?
Maybe you’ve watched ‘The Secret’, read about the Law of Attraction and realised that we are all powerful creators of our own realities. Wonderful.
But, sometimes nagging doubts can pop up:
‘Hang on, what am I actually manifesting in my life?’
‘Maybe I’m totally limiting myself?’
‘How can I stop all of these pesky negative thoughts that keep creeping into my mind?’
I was speaking with a client the other day and she was worried about the impact some of her limiting beliefs might be having on her life and the results she was seeing in her business.
Rather than focusing on how helpful it was that she had brought these unconscious beliefs into her awareness (so now she can start shifting them), she was panicking about what these thoughts would create.
I completely get this. When I first started doing this kind of work and realising that my inner world (my thoughts, emotions and beliefs) could impact my outer world, initially I felt a huge sense of excitement.
Then, very soon afterwards I thought:
‘But what about all of those negative thoughts that just seem to jump into my head?’
‘What about when I’m feeling like crap and don’t want to get out of bed?’
‘What about all of those deep limiting beliefs I’ve been working on?’
I became totally paralysed with fear, panic and self-doubt.
‘Arrghh, I can’t think! Must keep the negativity out of my mind!’
The result? I created the worst month in my business EVER. I attracted no new clients, I made virtually no money and I felt like I would have to give it all up and go back to working a 9-5.
At the same time, I was beating myself up about how I had managed to manifest what felt like a huge disaster. Not a good state of mind to be in.
What did I do to get out of the crap?
- I talked about what was going on for me – with my coach, my mastermind group, my friends and Mr H.
- I started to take action – small, simple steps that helped me to feel like I was back in control and moving forwards.
- I continued doing the inner work – shifting limiting beliefs and reframing any negative thoughts.
By doing this, I managed to get myself back into a positive state of mind and start creating magic again.
But, there are still times when stuff happens in my life and I go into self-blame mode. And I see this happen often, both with my clients and in my network.
My beautiful friend and mentor, Carly Hope, calls it ‘The curse of the conscious woman’. We know we are powerful creators, so we beat ourselves up whenever anything happens in our lives that we don’t like.
So, if you are feeling like s**t is happening in your life right now and it’s all your fault, what can you do?
The first thing is to stop using your amazing awareness and insight as a stick to beat yourself with!
Each time you recognise a belief that could be limiting or a seemingly negative thought, see it as a gift. Tell yourself, ‘This is an opportunity for me to let this go and write a new story for myself.’
Any new awareness is the first step to change. Welcome any doubts, fears, anger and frustration as a sign that something is shifting for you.
By doing this, you are placing yourself in a position of power, rather than slipping into a downward spiral to blame-ville.
Secondly, appreciate all of the good that you have already created.
I can guarantee that you’ve manifested a whole load of beauty in your life. Look around you now and focus on what you have in your life that you love – relationships, children, pets, home, work, surroundings.
Think about all of the amazing things you have done in your life, all the people you have met, how far you have come.
It can be easy to focus on the s**t rather than the good stuff, so switch that around.
When I started working on my wealth consciousness, at first I felt frustrated with my income. I felt like I should be more successful.
Then I took stock and realised that over the past few years, I had manifested:
- A total change of career
- My own business
- A husband
- A gorgeous new home
Not bad, eh? When I did this, I could see that I was totally rocking my power as a creator. It just wasn’t in the ‘money in the bank’ way.
As soon as I acknowledged this, I actually started to see more financial results as I felt so much more powerful.
You might not always get what you desire in the exact way that you expect, but you are manifesting all of the time. Choose to focus on the gorgeousness you’ve created in your life.
When you do that, you will feel lifted, your vibration will increase and more of the good stuff will flow your way.
So, instead of slipping into a place of self-blame and doubt, step into your power as a creator.
See any new awareness as an exciting opportunity to create a shift and acknowledge what you have manifested in your life so far.
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