How’s your relationship with money right now? If you’re anything like many of the women I speak to in my community, it can feel a bit frosty.
Maybe you’re finding it hard to attract money?
Maybe you’d like to be seeing more of it?
Maybe you want to feel more comfortable around money?
No fear gorgeous, because help is at hand! Here are my 5 top tips for romancing your money.
1) Sweet talk
How do you tend to talk about money? Be honest. Do you spend time bad-mouthing it, maybe using statements like this?
‘There’s just never enough’.
‘It’s too complicated.’
‘I feel sick about my finances right now.’
Imagine if you said things like this about a romantic partner? They wouldn’t stick around for long, would they?
You need to show money (and the Universe) that you appreciate and care about it. Talk about money tenderly and lovingly. Say ‘thank you!’ whenever it turns up. Give it a reason to stick around (and it will).
2) Buy your money a gift
Where do you keep your money at the moment?
Is it cramped in a purse or wallet that’s falling to bits?
Do you have random coins lying all over your home, on worktops, in drawers and down the back of the sofa?
Seriously! That’s not very loving or attentive is it? It’s time to show your money you care.
Treat yourself (and your cash) to a new purse, or at least clear out the old one so there’s more space for new money to flow in.
Go on a treasure hunt and collect up all those coins you have lying around the house. Buy yourself a gorgeous new bowl or box to keep them in from now on.
Help your money to feel right at home.
3) Have a date night
I’ve talked about this before and it is SO important. You need to make regular time for your money (just as you would for your beau).
Make time every week for a regular money date.
And before you go running for the hills, it doesn’t have to be all spreadsheets and numbers. Put on some music, pour yourself a glass of wine (or a cup of coffee) and get to know your money better.
Click here to see some activities you can include in your money date.
If you’re feeling particularly frisky, make it a threesome and include your partner in your money date!
4) Oh yes! Allow yourself to get excited
Has the spice gone out of your relationship with money? Have you started taking it for granted? Do you assume you’ll always have ‘just enough’ and no more?
The way you feel about your finances is really important. If you feel bored or disheartened, then you’ll simply attract more of that – boredom and a distinctly sinking feeling.
Remember what it feels like when you begin a new relationship? You have butterflies in your stomach, your heart lifts whenever your new beau calls you, you long for the time you’ll spend together and you imagine a gorgeous future together.
That’s exactly how you want to feel about money.
How can you create excitement?
- Make a note of every amount of money that flows to you (however big or small). You can record it in a notebook or a spreadsheet. Feel grateful for every penny you receive. Say out loud, ‘Thank you Universe!’ and do a happy dance.
- Set yourself a juicy financial goal. Brainstorm all the ways you can reach it. See it as a game – have fun with your goal. See yourself achieving it and get excited about how you will celebrate.
- Start a Play Fund. Set aside a proportion of your income purely for the purpose of having fun. You are not allowed to use this money for your usual, everyday expenses. It has to be used for abundant-feeling activities – spa days, dinner in a beautiful restaurant, theatre tickets, weekend trips.
Commit to putting the spark back in your money relationship.
5) Free, free, set it free
You know that old Sting song, ‘If You Love Somebody Set Them Free’ (totally showing my age here!)? Well, the same applies to money.
If you spend your life holding on to your cash, scrimping and saving, always looking for the best deal and scared to spend, then your cash-flow is likely to become stagnant.
By doggedly holding on to your money, you’re sending a strong message that you don’t believe there’s more to come to you.
You’re showing that you don’t trust the natural and abundant flow of income that’s available.
Often this ‘holding on’ comes from a place of fear and constriction.
It’s time to let it flow baby and tap into a feeling of expansiveness and freedom!
I’m not talking about going crazy and spending money you don’t have. You can start small, maybe allocating a proportion of your income to giving? Or treating yourself to something you’ve had your eye on for a while?
Whenever you spend money, affirm the following to yourself:
‘As I choose to spend this money, I attract even more to me.’
So, that’s five simple ways to romance your money. Which one appeals to you most?
Go do it and add some spice to your finances.
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