Behind the scenes of my miracle morning routine

Behind the scenes of my miracle morningHow do you start your day?

Do you have an uplifting morning routine that leaves you feeling energised and ready for the rest of the day?

Or do you tend to roll out of bed and straight into your day – checking emails, logging onto Facebook and mindlessly eating some breakfast?

I’ve been very up and down with my morning routine in the past.  Sometimes I’ve made space to begin my day with meditation, reading and stretching.  And at other times I’ve found myself switching the breakfast news on, jumping straight onto social media and then feeling a vague sense of unease and ‘busy-ness’ as I’ve gone through my day.

That is until I read ‘The Miracle Morning’ by Hal Elrod.

I’m a strong believer in the power of books and particularly reading the right book at the right time (when I say ‘reading’, I mean reading and implementing your learning!)  When ‘The Miracle Morning‘ was recommended to me by three different people within the space of a couple of days, I took that as a sign that I needed to read it.

Quick tip: The Universe is always sending you signs, giving you clues to your next step. Pay attention when you hear or see something that feels important.

The idea Elrod shares in the book is that when we make time for personal development at the beginning of the day, we can create magic in our lives.

He suggests that we spend one hour doing a little bit of each of these activities: silence (meditation or prayer), reading, journalling, affirmations, visualisation and exercise.

To be honest when I read this I thought, ‘Well I kinda know this and I can’t see that it will make that much difference really.’

And I did know it.

I know that when you start your day in an intentional, focused way, life flows much more easily.

But, most of the time I wasn’t doing it!

So I decided to commit to The Miracle Morning and see what happened.

Now one of the benefits for me of having my own business is that I don’t have to set an alarm or get up at a particular time.

But as part of my miracle morning practice I committed to getting up at 6am (admittedly with some resistance, as I don’t like the feeling that I have to get up at a certain time).

The first morning I woke up before 6 (without an alarm) and felt surprisingly refreshed. I headed downstairs to do my miracle morning activities, completing them at 7 (before my normal wake-up time), leaving me plenty of time to have a relaxed breakfast and catch up with the world.

I’ve carried on every day since and I have to admit the results have been pretty miraculous!

  • New clients have been approaching me and asking to work with me.
  • I’m making more money (with much less work!)
  • I have far more time for myself to relax and play during the day.
  • More opportunities are coming my way.
  • Mr H keeps asking why I’m SO happy.

Because I’m starting my day with a clear intention, I’m creating far more flow and ease in my life.

I know that whatever happens during the day, I’ve already made time for myself – I’ve made myself a priority right at the beginning of each day. And that sends a powerful message to both my subconscious mind and out into the world.

So, here’s the lowdown on how I spend my Miracle Mornings:

6am        I get up and head downstairs to my living room (it helps to get out of the  bedroom and into a different space)

6.05am   15 minutes of meditation/silence (I focus on my breath, sometimes work with my chakras and do some energy work. At the end of my meditation, I ask for support from my guides and angels and pull an oracle card from one of my favourite packs – I love Doreen Virtue’s Angel Tarot Cards, Lisa Lister’s Sassy SHE Oracle Cards and Kyle Gray’s Angel Prayer Oracle Cards.

Pour myself a cup of hot water and lemon. (The perfect start-of-the-day drink!)

6.20am    10 minutes of reading. I tend to read a LOT throughout the day, but for this focused 10 minutes I choose an uplifting, inspiring book, usually related to money mindset.

6.30am     10 minutes of journaling. I’ve struggled with maintaining a regular journal practice in the past, so giving myself permission to write for just 10 minutes really helps. What I journal about varies – how I’m feeling, reflecting on the previous day, what I’m mindful of in that moment or a gratitude list.

6.40am     5 minutes of affirmations.  I work with about 5-6 different affirmations at any one time and change them regularly according to my goals and desires. My super-special technique includes using EFT tapping to release anything that’s coming up for me first and then continuing tapping as I say my affirmations out loud (literally tapping into the positive statements!)

6.45am     5 minutes of visualisation. I combine a short-term visualisation of how I want my day to be with visions of my longer term desired outcomes. I sometimes reflect on my Pinterest dream board too. Click here for a blog post with my top tips for visualisation.

6.50am     10 minutes of exercise. I tend to go to the gym later in the day and do a more vigorous workout (my body prefers a gentle start to the day!) so for this 10 minutes I do some yoga – maybe some cat/cow stretches and then a few sun salutations. I like to do this in the conservatory with the door open, getting some fresh air and connecting with the outside.

7am          Time for a cup of jasmine green tea and breakfast!

The great thing about a Miracle Morning is that you can adapt the routine to suit you. Maybe you want to include more exercise, or spend longer reading? It’s completely flexible.

The important thing is to begin your day with intention and self-love.

So, are you ready to start your Miracle Morning practice? 

Comment below to let me know when you’ll be starting your Miracle Mornings and what time you’re committed to rising at (this is a powerful way of setting your intention).

Here’s to creating and allowing miracles in your life!

Nicola x

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4 ways to use visualisation to create a life (and income) you LOVE

4 ways to use visualisation to create aI’m sure you’ve heard that visualisation is a powerful tool when it comes to bringing your dreams into reality.

It was mentioned in ‘The Secret’ and pretty much every self-help book recommends visualisation in one way or another.

But what if you struggle with visualisation? What if you find it difficult to visualise your dream life? What if your attempts to create an image of your goals leaves you feeling frustrated (rather than full of possibility?)

I’ll let you into a secret – I struggle with visualisation too.

Very often I find it super-challenging to create images of what I desire in my mind’s eye.

If I sit down and ‘try’ to visualise, I get distracted and find it difficult to focus.

I’m just not a natural visualiser!

But I know how powerful visualisation is. I know that when you have a clear idea of what you want to create in your life (and finances), it’s SO much easier to bring it into reality. And I also know there’s not one ‘right’ way to visualise.

So, here are my top 4 tips to harness the power of visualisation (even when it doesn’t come naturally to you):

1) Bring in all of the senses

It’s a fact that not all of us are particularly visual. Some people can create wonderful film-like images in their minds and others (like me!) find it really difficult.  And that’s okay.

You don’t need to ‘see’ your dreams to benefit from the power of visualisation. You can use your other senses to build up an idea of what it will be like when you achieve your goals.

Imagine the kind of sounds you will hear. (Waves washing onto the beach outside your seafront home, Hay House ringing to offer you a book deal, applause from the audience after your signature talk).

Are there any particular smells you can associate with your dream life? (Leather seats in your brand new car, a luxurious candle or the scent of tropical flowers at a gorgeous beach resort).

What will you feel when your dreams are a reality?  (Egyptian cotton sheets against your skin, the ground under your feet as you walk barefoot in your beautiful garden, the warmth of the sun on your skin as you live in your dream location.)

And don’t forget to bring in taste. (Chilled champagne, fresh tropical fruit, a fabulous, 5-star dinner).

And alongside all of these, the most important element is how you will feel emotionally when you achieve your goals.  As you visualise your desires, connect with the emotions you will experience – joy, peace, gratitude, hopefulness, contentment, freedom, happiness.

By bringing in all of the senses, you build up a much more compelling representation of what you want to create.

2) Create a Pinterest Board

As a money coach and mentor, I should be a dab hand with vision boards, but here’s another of my guilty secrets – when I’ve made vision boards in the past, I’ve very rarely looked at them afterwards.

If you love making vision boards and look at yours regularly – fantastic!

If you find that they end up at the back of a cupboard or in a drawer, then how about using Pinterest to create an online board of your desires?

This is what I do now and I find it so much easier than sitting down with a pile of magazines and a Pritt Stick.

I’ve created a special board on Pinterest entitled, ‘Whatever I include on this board, IS!’ (as inspired by the Abraham Hicks exercise , ‘The Magical Creation Box’).

On this board, I include images of what my dream home looks like, places I’d like to visit, furniture I love, the spa I want to be a member of – whatever I can think of that represents my dreams.

I can check in with this board at any time and keep adding things that I want to bring into my life. It’s more flexible and fluid than creating a static vision board and I can have a look at it easily whenever I have a few minutes.

3) Make visualisation a daily practice

If you’re anything like I’ve been in the past, visualisation can become an every-now-and-again, or even once-a-year process.

Maybe you find yourself enthusiastically visualising your ideal life on 1st January and then everyday life gets in the way, leaving you no closer to your dreams as it comes round to New Year’s Eve again?

This year, I’ve made a firm commitment to reach financial freedom by my 45th birthday (30th December 2016), so I need to keep checking in with my goal to make sure it becomes a reality. Letting life slide by is NOT an option.

So, I’ve made a commitment to visualise my desires daily.

Don’t worry, this doesn’t mean you have to spend hours, sitting and creating a mental picture of your dream life.

If you can commit to at least a couple of minutes every day, you’ll be well ahead of the pack.

Maybe you can spend a few minutes each morning before you get out of bed, or last thing at night before you drift off to sleep? If you commute to work, you could spend some of that time visualising.

Decide what time works best for you and commit to making visualisation a daily practice from now on.

4) Mix it up with timescales

When you visualise your ‘dream life’ it’s easy to let your mind drift off years into the future. You imagine all the ways you want your life to be different and, of course, that’s really valuable.

BUT it can all seem a bit far off and out of reach.

So, I encourage you to do both short-term and long-term visualisations.

As well as imagining your absolute, ideal life, what would you like to create this month, this week, today?

You can do super-short-term visualisations, like imagining an email from a new client popping up in your inbox, your partner coming home and offering to take you out for a gorgeous dinner, or a cheque coming through the post.

You don’t have to wait for years to achieve your dream life. What would take you closer to that today? Allow your mind to wander and visualise the possibilities your day has in store.

So, there you have it – my top 4 visualisation tips for non-visualisers!

I’d love to know which one appeals to you most, so comment below and let me know your favourite tip.

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How to move through Upper Limit Problems

How to move through Upper Limit ProblemsOne of my favourite (and most-recommended) books when it comes to wealth consciousness is ‘The Big Leap’ by Gay Hendricks. It’s a great book (I’m on my 3rd time of reading) and in it Hendricks talks about the concept of the Upper Limit Problem.

An Upper Limit Problem (or ULP) happens when things are going well – maybe you’ve had the best month ever in your business, a fantastic launch or just signed up a dream client – you feel great and then out of the blue, something goes wrong.

You get sick.

You have a huge argument with your partner.

Or that dream client emails you to say actually, they can’t go ahead right now.

When something like this happens, it’s very unlikely to be a coincidence.

Something within you has responded to your (maybe unfamiliar) feeling
of flow, positivity and celebration and self-sabotage has kicked in.

This, my friend, is an Upper Limit Problem in action.

I’ve experienced this phenomenon many times. Just recently, I’ve got sick on two occasions after experiencing leaps forward in my business.

And ULPs don’t just happen in your business. They can show up in your relationships too.

Mr H and I had a huge argument on the very day we went to buy my engagement ring in London. It was meant to be a joyful, love-filled experience and we spent most of it bitching at each other.

So, why do ULPs happen?

Well, there can be a number of reasons and Hendricks covers these in more detail in ‘The Big Leap’. But basically, we experience an Upper Limit Problem when we have some kind of limiting belief(s) running subconsciously.

These limiting beliefs will be something like this:

‘I’m not good enough.’

‘I don’t deserve it.

‘Good things don’t last.’

‘It’s just too good to be true.’

These beliefs are often picked up when we’re very young. I was with my mum recently and she actually said, ‘You can’t expect too much of a good thing.’ My response was, ‘Why the heck not?’ But as a child, I would have just accepted that limiting statement as fact.

So, what can you do to move through an ULP and into a new level of abundance, love and joy?

Here are my recommended 3 steps:

1) Be aware of any potential Upper Limit Problems. When things are going well, look out for any signs of self-sabotage. Awareness is always the first step to change.

2) Reframe your ULP. Rather than beating yourself up for sabotaging yourself, if you notice this happening take it as a positive sign that you are growing and expanding.

3) Tap on it. Emotional Freedom Technique or tapping is my go-to tool for shifting any limiting beliefs or restrictive emotions that are coming up. I’ve created a special tapping routine specifically to help with Upper Limit Problems. You can see it below and tap along whenever you need to.

Top Tip: In the video I use Gay Hendricks’ Ultimate Success Mantra – combining tapping with positive affirmations and mantras is super-powerful.

Use this routine as often as you like to avoid self-sabotage and expand your capacity for money, success, abundance and love.

Don’t forget to comment below and let me know if you found this article and video helpful.

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Are you money conscious?

Are you money conscious_There’s a lot of content out there about ‘wealth consciousness’, but are you conscious of where your money comes from and where it flows to on a day-to-day basis?

SO many women entrepreneurs I speak to have a very loose awareness of the money in their lives. Their finances seem like a mystery and they have no idea how they can create and keep more money.

This is how a lack of money consciousness might be showing up for you right now:

Maybe you have an idea of whether you’re having a ‘good’ month or a ‘bad’ month, but you don’t know how this actually happens? This makes it really tricky to repeat the good and avoid the bad months!

Maybe you can create a healthy income, but it seems to disappear (like magic!) by the end of each month?

Or perhaps you feel that you’re super-busy, working endless hours, but not creating a financial return that reflects the effort you’re putting into your business?

If this is you right now, then it’s likely you’re feeling pretty confused and frustrated.  And I completely understand, because this used to be me too!

You need to dive in and become more money conscious o’ gorgeous one.  Don’t worry, it’s much easier than you think and here are my top ‘money consciousness’ tips to get you on your way.

1) Track it!

The very first step is to begin tracking every amount of money that flows to you and away from you – every time you receive any income, record it, and every time you spend money, record it.

This might seem really like hard work but believe me, you can make it super-simple.

You can track your money in a small notebook that you carry around with you, on your phone or tablet or you can create a simple spreadsheet.

Knowledge is power (and more money!) and the information you want to collect is:

  • The sources your income is coming from (make a note of what product or service has created each amount of income)
  • The sort of things you are spending your money on (make a note of where you choose to spend your money and each of your expenses)

If you’re noticing resistance to tracking your money (I certainly did initially!), just commit to doing this for one month to begin with.  When you see the results, I’m sure you’ll want to continue.

2) Become a conscious spender

Many of us are mindless spenders. We see something, in that moment we want it and we buy it. Then we move on to the next thing. We end up with lots of stuff, a lack of money and very little real satisfaction.

It’s time to become a conscious spender.

Once you start tracking your money, take some time to look back and notice how you feel about your spending choices. Do the things you spend your money on bring you joy and satisfaction? Are they useful? Do they add value to your life?

Notice those purchases that feel unnecessary when you reflect back on them. Notice the spending decisions that make you feel uneasy or uncomfortable in some way.

Set your intention to become a more conscious spender.

One way you can do this is to designate one day a week to make any spending decisions. (This is something I teach my money mastery clients).

On the day you choose, go through anything you’re considering buying and think about whether you truly want or need it.

Doing this helps to remove emotion from your spending decision and can stop you from making spur-of-the-moment purchases that you later regret.  (This one step can be a huge money-saver for Amazon junkies, like me!)

3) Know exactly what’s making you money (so you can make more of it!)

Many women entrepreneurs drift through life not being clear on their numbers.  Sometimes it feels like business is going well and other times not so well, but they have no real idea of what makes the difference between a ‘good’ month and a ‘bad’ month.  (I know because the ups and downs of my business used to baffle me!)

In order to have a successful business with a healthy income, you need to know where that income is going to come from.

Once you start tracking your income, after a period of time (this can be each week, month, quarter or year), look back at your tracker and calculate which products or services have created the most income for you.  You might be surprised!

I was SO resistant to doing this when it was first suggested to me.  I thought I knew which of my services created the most money for me and it sounded like hard work.  But I was astonished when I saw the results – some of services I was putting the most energy into creating and marketing were the least financially successful, whereas others that I hadn’t been giving much attention were responsible for a substantial proportion of my income.

This meant I was able to give more energy to those services that were likely to create the most impact for me financially and let go of offerings that I wasn’t being rewarded for.

When you become money conscious, you have the knowledge to create magic in your finances.

So, are you ready to raise your money-consciousness?  I invite you to comment below to let me know you’re in and let’s create money magic together!

Nicola x

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A tapping routine using EFT to help with change & transition

A tapping routine using EFT to help with changeWhen you’re making a change (big or small) in your life or your business, it’s natural to experience feelings of discomfort, fear and resistance (it’s ALL part of the process).

Sometimes though these feelings can make us want to give up, to forget about the change we’re trying to create and keep things the way they are.

Fear around change can keep us small and prevent us from living life the way we desire.

That’s why I’ve created this short tapping routine to help you release any uncomfortable feelings of fear and resistance if you’re making a change right now.

Just tap along and notice how you feel different afterwards.

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Why I’m channelling my inner DIVA (and maybe you should too?)

3 ways to channel your inner divaI spent last weekend at a music festival in my hometown of Southampton and one of the headline acts, Grace Jones, completely blew me away with her performance and totally umcomprimising attitude.

She is a complete star in every sense of the word and the personification of a ‘diva’.

Seeing her perform got me thinking about how often we refuse to take a leading role in our own lives (and when we see someone else rocking it out in their lives, our first response can often be critical).

So, here’s what I took from Grace Jones’ performance – three lessons we can learn from a diva.

1) Be unapologetic

A diva is 100% unapologetic.  She doesn’t play herself down or keep herself small.

Grace Jones certainly didn’t creep onto the stage.  She strode out and made her mark.  When something didn’t go as planned, she didn’t say, ‘Oh, I’m sorry about that, I’ve messed up!’  She simply acknowledged it with good humour and carried on.

Of course, if you genuinely hurt someone, then an apology is in order, but how often do you say sorry or undermine yourself in some way for no valid reason whatsoever?

I found myself doing this the other day.  I was one of two main speakers at a conference.  I hadn’t met the other speaker before, but I’d heard of her in the online world.  When we were introduced, she mentioned that she’d heard of me and I immediately jumped in with a jokey, ‘Oh, that’s ominous’ comment.

I didn’t allow her to expand on what she had to say.  I shut the moment down with a ‘It’s-safer-to-stay-small’ joke.  I dimmed my light. (I was completely un-diva-esque!)

Later I found out that one of her clients had spoken about me with admiration and that’s how she knew about me.  I very nearly didn’t get to receive this positive feedback though , as I was busy deflecting.

Embrace your inner diva.  Don’t apologise for your existence!

2) Ask for what you want

A diva asks for (and receives) exactly what she wants.

During her performance, Grace Jones regularly asked for whatever she wanted from her team – whether it was some water, a glass of wine or the appearance of her male pole dancer, she was super-clear about what she needed and wanted.

She didn’t wait for someone to offer.  She didn’t hang back in the hope that someone would read her mind and meet her needs.

She simply asked.

How often do you keep your desires (big or small) in your head, rather than expressing them?

I’m not saying you have to demand your very own pole dancer (although if that floats your boat gorgeous, please do go ahead!), but whether it’s letting your partner know where you want to go for dinner, or making a bold declaration to the Universe, ask for what you want.

3) Be your unique self

A diva embraces and expresses her unique-ness with every opportunity.

Grace Jones didn’t shuffle onto the stage in any common-or-garden outfit, oh no.  She appeared with a huge head-dress, some body paint and very little else.

She also performed one song whilst hula-hooping the whole way through.

She was absolutely NOT trying to fit in.  She hadn’t watered herself down in the hope people would like her.  She was 100% herself and if someone didn’t like it, too bad.

So, let me ask you a question.  How much of yourself are you expressing in your life and your business right now?  Are you unashamedly you, or are you only portraying the aspects of yourself that you deem to be acceptable?

When we hold back on being fully ourselves, we become bland.  In trying to be more ‘acceptable’, we become less attractive to the people who would otherwise be raving fans.

Whether it’s on social media, in your writing or in person, notice where you are holding yourself back right now, and allow your unique self to shine through.

You will become compellingly attractive in the process.

So from now on, ask yourself the question, ‘What would my inner diva do in this situation?’ and listen to the answer.  I guarantee you will be, do and have a whole lot more in your life when you follow her glorious lead!

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Sharing a BIG decision. My financial freedom goal.

Sharing a BIG decision.My financialI recorded a video for you this morning and to tell you the truth, I very nearly didn’t.

I very nearly didn’t blog at all this week, as I’m pretty darn scared about what I’m about to put out there.

In the video I’m sharing a HUGE goal I’ve just set – the juiciest, stretchiest goal I’ve ever set for myself, the kind of goal that came like a download and I just have to go for it.

Watch the video to find out more (if I’m a little chatty and waffly during this video, it’s because I can’t quite believe I’m making myself publicly accountable like this!)

I’m sure you have some questions after watching this.

Maybe you’re wondering exactly what ‘financial freedom’ means?

Perhaps you haven’t got a clue what financial freedom would look like to you?

Maybe you’ve got no idea how you could be financially free?

If you choose to join me on this journey, I will help you to get clear on all of that.

To be honest, I have no idea exactly what this process will be like.  I’m just committed to getting going and sharing as much as I can with you (the successes and the challenges).

So:

  • if you want to create your own financial freedom goal and work towards it,
  • if you want to generate more income and wealth in your life,
  • or if you’re just curious about what it takes to become financially free,

I’d love you to share this challenge with me.

The best way to do this is to become part of my community to keep in touch (the sign-up box is at the bottom of this page).

I’ll be sharing regular updates, exercises for you to work through and group challenges, as I explore the different routes to financial freedom.

I SO hope you choose to join me!

Nicola xTooltipText

Should I invest in my business?

Shoud I invest in my businessI hear this question a LOT.

‘Should I be investing in my business?’

‘What do I need to invest in?’

‘Is this the right person/programme for me to invest in right now?’

And behind this can be other, more fearful questions – ‘What if I get ripped off? What if I don’t see a return on my investment? What if I just end up out of pocket and no further on in my business?’

I get this. I’ve had exactly the same questions in the past and I know it’s not an easy decision.

Over the years I’ve invested a substantial amount in my business, working with different coaches and group programmes. Sometimes I’ve got it right and achieved the results I wanted. Other times I’ve ended up feeling frustrated and like I haven’t got what I needed out of the process.

So,whether you’re thinking about investing in a coach, a mastermind group or a programme right now, here’s what I’ve learned about investing.

1) There is never a right time

Sorry to break it to you, but I can pretty much guarantee that there will never be a time when you have a pot of cash put aside and feel completely ready to make an investment in your business.

Most of the time there will be other things you could be spending your money on, so you’ll probably feel torn about making your investment.

Most of the time, you’ll have some doubts about whether investing is the right thing to do. ‘Is this the right coach for me? Is this the right programme?’

Sometimes, you might be thinking about putting your investment on a credit card and worrying about that.

None of this is a sign that you shouldn’t go ahead and do it.

My best advice is to tune in and go with your intuition. Resolve to make a decision, one way or another, and trust that whatever you choose, it’s the right thing for you right now.

2) Be in your power

I often hear people criticising coaches they’ve worked with or programmes they’ve done, because they don’t feel they’ve got the results they wanted.

Now I’m not saying there aren’t any bad coaches or crappy programmes out there, but any time you make an investment remember it’s a two-way process.

This is not about handing over a pile of cash, sitting back and waiting for the other party to magically change things for you. You need to engage and commit to getting what you need from the process.

I say this with love and complete understanding, because I’ve had times in the past when I’ve invested and ended up feeling frustrated that I wasn’t seeing the shifts I wanted. At the time I felt resentment towards the coach I was working with, but the fact is it was down to me. I was being too passive in the process.

I sat back, didn’t participate as much I could have and expected things to change purely from the very act of investing. Doh!

I later worked with the same coach and got hugely different results, because I engaged. I stepped into my power and made damn sure that I got what I needed.

Lesson learned.

Be in your power and accept responsibility for achieving the results you desire (because you are the only one who can do this.)

3) Put some skin in the game

This is cliché (and maybe a bit cheesy!), but it’s a cliché for a reason (because it’s true). If you want to see results, you need to have skin in the game.

I’ve bought online programmes for $97 and received very little value, because it didn’t really feel like much of an investment for me.

On the other hand, I’ve invested £,000’s in coaching programmes and taken huge action because the amount I’d spent felt like a stretch. I knew I had to bloomin’ well get my money’s worth and I made sure I did.

This is the difference that having skin in the game makes.

That’s why I now tend to make more substantial investments and less of them, rather than lots of smaller investments.

4) Set a clear intention

Whenever you’re making an investment, be clear about what you want to get out of it.  Begin by asking yourself these questions:

Where do you want to be at the end of the process?

How will you and your business be different?

What support do you need?

What specific results do you want to see?

How will you know when you’ve got these results?

When I was making the transition to focus on money mindset work with my clients, I hired a coach for six months to help me make that change in my business. I knew that I wanted to grow my list, raise my profile in what was a new field for me and create and sell new high-level offerings for my clients.

By the end of the 6-months, I’d run a successful telesummit, doubled my list and had high level clients working with me on a new 6-month programme and my VIP day offering.

When clients come to work with me, I make sure they’re clear about the results they want to create.

Some want to double their income, some want to get their first paying clients, some want to get clear on their pricing and some want to create a more resourceful relationship with money.

If you go into something with woolly intentions, you’ll receive woolly results (believe me, I’ve been there!)

Get crystal clear on what you want to achieve and you’re halfway there already.

5) Create a space and take action

Whenever you’re deciding to invest in your business, commit to taking consistent action.

Schedule time in your diary to listen to any group calls as well as do the exercises and implement.

I fell foul of this recently, because I’d invested in a group programme which involved lots of inner and energy work. I’d put the group calls in my diary, but hadn’t scheduled time to do the work I needed to do.

I ended up feeling rushed and pressured (and you can’t rush inner work). It’s only now that I’ve made enough space in my diary that I know I’ll receive what I need from the programme.

Whenever you’re investing, you need to give yourself the space and time to both consume the content you need AND take action.

At the end of the day, only you know whether a particular investment is right for you.

If you go into it with the right attitude, ready to take action and receive what you need, then the chances are you’ll get the results you desire (and often much more).

I invest consistently in myself and my business, because I want to continue growing. I also expect my clients to invest and engage when they work with me, so I’d feel a complete fraud if I didn’t do the same myself.

Make your decision from a place of power, rather than a place of fear, and enjoy the process.

Now I’d love to know, what have been your experiences of investing in your business?  Good, bad or indifferent, I invite you to join the discussion now and comment below.

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Top 10 Abundance Hacks

Top 10 Abundance HacksOver the past two years, I’ve created some huge shifts in my business which have allowed me to double my income. Most of this has come from doing consistent inner work on my mindset and emotions around money.

The fact is, when you do the inner work, you see results. But I know that often we resist looking inwards, as it can feel like it’s going to be too hard or take too long.

I get that and believe me, if I felt I had to sit there all day journalling, meditating and making positive affirmations to get the results I want in my business, I’d go and get myself a 9-5.

That’s why I prefer to use a range of super-simple techniques that you can do in just a few minutes. I might use all of these techniques in one day and cumulatively they help to create huge shifts, without taking hours and hours.

Let me introduce you to my top 10 abundance hacks.

1) Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude

I know you’ve heard this before (and you’ve heard it because it’s true!), developing an attitude of gratitude is a quick-fire way of shifting from a mindset of scarcity and lack to beautiful abundance.

Make gratitude a daily practice and you’ll notice the results immediately. Here are some of the ways I build gratitude into my life:

  • saying ‘thank you Universe!’ (either out loud or silently in my mind) every time money flows to me,
  • taking myself out for a walk of appreciation. This means going for a walk with the express intention of building a sense of gratitude.  To do this, notice everything around you that makes you feel good and say ‘thank you’ (either out loud or internally),
  • running through everything I feel grateful for about my day as I drift off to sleep each night.

You won’t receive more until you appreciate what you already have. Allow your sense of gratitude to grow and more and more abundance will flow your way.

2) Change your story

YOU get to write the script of your life, so choose a good one.

Tune into your internal dialogue and notice the kind of things you’re saying to yourself. If you find yourself making statements like, ‘This will never work for me’ or ‘I can’t do it’ or ‘I’m just not meant to be rich’, then that’s exactly what you’ll create in your life.

Whatever happens, choose to tell yourself an empowering story.

For example, if I get a client cancellation, rather than telling myself, ‘Oh no, they didn’t want to work with me and now my income will be down this month’, I choose a different story: ‘Oh yes!  This is making space for an even more ideal client to work with me’.

I can’t tell you the difference this switch has made. Always choose to write the most empowering, abundant script possible for yourself.

Don’t worry if a negative story creeps in first. As soon as you notice it, reframe your story in a positive way. Very soon you’ll find that the script of abundance is running quite naturally for you.

3) Harness the power of your imagination

Use your imagination to consistently create images of what you desire in your life.

Whenever you have a free moment, picture yourself living the life you dream of. Notice everything about that image – the colours, the shapes, the textures, where you are, who’s with you, what you’re doing, what you’re wearing, the look in your eyes. Make the image as vivid as you possibly can.

If this feels fake, realise that you’re constantly creating images of your past, present and future in your mind anyway. It’s just that most of the time you aren’t paying active attention to the images you’re creating.

When you choose to engage in the visualisation process actively, you can create the images you desire.

For example, when you launch a new product or service, visualise emails coming into your inbox letting you know that clients have purchased it.

Imagine a client contacting you to tell you how awesome it was to work with you.

Visualise your bank account with the amount you desire in it.

Have fun with this process and maybe you’ll be surprised at how often your images end up becoming a reality.

4) Tap into it

However much you work on an abundance mindset, there are going to be times when life isn’t flowing the way you want it to and you’re not feeling your best. And that’s okay. You simply need a way to shift this and get back in the abundance zone.

EFT is my go-to tool for clearing any crap that’s coming up. If you’ve never used it before, you can find out more on my Youtube channel.

Tapping is pretty much a daily practice for me and I teach it to all of my clients. You might not notice the shift immediately, but I’ve lost count of the number of times someone has told me that they’ve received unexpected money or a new client enquiry after doing a couple of rounds of tapping.

Have a go and tap into your abundance.

5) Change your state

Another way to shift any negativity that’s coming up for you is to change your state. Rather than sitting in front of your laptop and dwelling on something that’s not gone the way you wanted it to, get up and move!

Get outside, go for a walk, go to the gym, put on some music and dance, stretch, do some yoga – just do something that moves your body.

When you’re sitting at your desk, your energy can become stagnant and worries, doubts and anxieties can feel exaggerated.

As soon as you get up and move your body, your energy starts to flow and you’ll begin to see things differently.

P.S. When I make time to do some form of exercise every day, my income goes through the roof.

6) Ask for support

You don’t have to do it all on your own! Believe me. When you allow yourself to receive support, you’ll feel like a weight has been lifted from you.

This might be directly related to your business – getting help with your website, design work or social media, or hiring a coach – or it could be something that makes your personal life easier –employing a cleaner, allowing your partner to cook dinner or getting your car valeted.

As soon as you get support, your subconscious mind will kick in and breathe a sigh of relief because your business will instantly feel more sustainable. This frees up your subconscious to find new ways for abundance to flow to you (and it’s SO good at doing that when you allow it to).

7) Build your receiving muscle

In order to receive more, you need to be OPEN.

This doesn’t just apply to money (although you always need to make sure that it’s clear to prospective clients how they can work with and pay you). Remember the way you do one thing is the way you do everything, so practice being open to receive in every way you can think of.

Accept compliments, offers of help, feedback, love, social invitations, smiles, eye contact.

Notice how much more good stuff flows to your when you’re open to receive it.

I wrote a whole blog post about developing your receive-ability and you can click here to read it.

8) Declutter

You can declutter your mind of limiting beliefs and unhelpful thought patterns by using EFT or journalling and it’s just as important to declutter your physical space.

When you have excess stuff cluttering up your home and your office, it takes away your energy and your sense of clarity. You can end up feeling weighed down and unconsciously stressed.

Either devote 15 minutes a day to clearing one area of your house at a time, or put aside a weekend and go for it.

Make space for the new to flow in.

I had a massive declutter at the beginning of this year and as well as making extra cash by selling some of my possessions, I’ve since had the best two months ever in my business.

9) Ask yourself expansive questions

Don’t close yourself down with limiting statements like, ‘I could never to that’ or ‘It’s just too difficult.’ Open yourself up with expansive questions.

Ask yourself, ‘I wonder how many ways I could create £xxxx of income in my business next week/month/year?’

‘I wonder who could help me with that?’

‘I wonder what it would be like to be living my most abundant, juicy, dreamy life?’

‘What action would I take if I knew I couldn’t fail?’

Notice how you feel when you ask yourself those kind of questions. On a conscious level, they feel good, but it goes deeper than that. When you ask yourself these gorgeous, expansive questions, your subconscious mind can’t help but go on a search to find the answers.

If you make it a practice to ask yourself expansive questions, you’ll begin to notice opportunities coming your way.

10) Get clear on where you are right now

When you’re creating more abundance in your life, it’s SO helpful to know where you’re starting from. If you’re not clear on where you are right now, how can you notice any improvement in your fortunes?

Commit to getting clear on your financial situation. Note down the current amount in your bank account, any savings/investments you have, track your income and also get clear on any debt you currently have.

There is no judgement here! It’s just about knowing your starting point.

Money loves clarity and when you show that you’re ready to step up and take control of your finances, you’ll notice that more starts to flow to you.

So that’s my personal top 10 abundance hacks. Which one appeals to you most? Which one are you going to use today?

Comment below to let me know and commit to allowing more to flow to you.

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Code Red. An interview with Lisa Lister

Interview with Lisa ListerI’m all about creating wealth in a way that feels truly sustainable – a way that fits for me as a woman and isn’t all about ‘push, push, pushing’.

One of my go-to women for inspiration in this area is author and defender of female awesome-ness, Lisa Lister.  I’ve been wanting to interview Lisa for ages as she has SO much wisdom to share about harnessing the super-powers of your menstrual cycle (yes, you have super-powers!)    Connecting with this knowledge has literally helped me to change my life and transform my business.

So I was delighted to have the opportunity to speak with Lisa recently to find out more about her work and the launch of her new book, ‘Code Red‘.

Grab yourself a cuppa, sit back and listen to Lisa and I in conversation by clicking the play button below.

If you’d prefer to read the interview, here’s a full transcription for your delight.

Nicola: Lisa, it is such a pleasure to talk with you today!

Lisa: Thanks for having me, lovely one! I’m excited.

Nicola: Me too. Can you tell us a bit more about Code Red and specifically what inspired you to write this particular book?

Code Red is the fundamental basis of all the work that I do with women. I’ve done a lot of work with self-esteem and feeling good about yourself. I worked with the Dove Self-Esteem Project too.

What I was finding was that it was great to share practices and ways to fall in love with yourself, but what I then realised through my own menstrual journey, which has taken me on a very wild path in the last 10 years… I was misdiagnosed for a lot of years and I discovered I had endometriosis, and through the endometriosis, when I went to a doctor’s appointment, they told me I’d have to have my… They were very “white coat” about it, I guess, very “white coat” and sciency about it and were kind of like, “You’re not going to be able to have children, so the ideal situation would be to just whip ‘em out.” “Whip what out?!” “Your whole womb – we’ll whip it all out, then you won’t have any more pain.” And I was just like, “Hmm…”

And so walking out of there, I got this real fire in my belly. It wasn’t the pain and it wasn’t anything that I’d felt previously, but there was this real fire. It became like an anger in me and now I know that fire to be a reaction from SHE, which is the energy that I work with – the kind of feminine energy which resides in our womb space. So, the idea that I was going to have my womb whipped out did not sit too well with that and me. That was, I guess, my first reaction to the idea of that.

Don’t get me wrong – there was a moment when I was like, “Oh, this could be quite tempting, actually.” Anyone that knows any kind of lady part disease in their body will know that the idea of that is very, very tempting. But the actuality of it was like, “No, this is not cool, actually.” If this is the only option we’re giving women if they’re suffering this kind of pain, then there has to be other ways.

What happened was that I discovered lots of practices, lots of ways of working with my menstrual cycle – some very sciency, some super-super-hippy and spiritual, both of which I love deeply – and so Code Red is actually a culmination of all of those practices made as accessible as possible for women like me and you who are businesswomen, who have kids, who have families, who want to have great sex. I wasn’t able to have great sex because I was in pain – that is not cool!

We need to have some kind of acknowledgement of our lady parts because many of us cut ourselves off from the chest down, unless it is about sex, and we don’t pay attention to ourselves. Code Red is trying to make what I’ve learned in the last 10 years about periods, about menstruation, about lady parts in general as accessible and as fun as possible. You know, this doesn’t have to be about, “Oh, goodness, it’s doom and gloom and period pain,” and everything like that. It’s about finding your superpowers in your menstrual cycle, which we have loads. And it’s so exciting because when we know it there’s this big, massive map that goes on in our bodies every month, that if we tap into it we can create better, we can have better sex, we can have an amazing business, we can make more money. If we understand our cycle, we understand ourselves – and that, for me, is way more information than any self-care practice I’ve ever experienced before could give me.

So, yes – Code Red! That’s it, in a nutshell! I may try and get that down a bit shorter at some point! I don’t know if I could, even if I tried.

Nicola: Well, as a book you’ve made it really simple!  It’s uplifting and empowering as you’re reading about the different aspects of the cycle and how to work with them to be your best and to get the best out of your life and your business.

For me personally, for the longest time I never even considered how my menstrual cycle could impact on my life and my business. I think I shared with you over email that I was on the contraceptive injection for about four years or so, so I had no cycle at all. Initially I was like, “Oh, great! It’s fantastic not to have a cycle. I can just get on and do whatever and not even think about it.” And then I started reading more of your work and some other people in this area, and that’s what inspired me to stop having the injection, which was about a year ago.

I don’t think it’s any coincidence that over the past year I’ve had the best year ever in my business. I’ve moved in a different direction, I’ve just felt so inspired. It’s had such a huge impact on me. I just wonder how this knowledge and this wisdom that you acquired and started to tap into has specifically helped you in your life and your business?

Lisa: It’s changed so massively. I think, hearing what you said, it was exactly that, because any kind of synthetic hormonal induced set-up in your body is going to be numbing our menstrual cycle, our cyclic nature as women – and we are cyclic. We’re trying to function in this masculine construct, which is no bad thing at all, but if we know that we can manage it better.

I think that, for me, was a really big switch. It was like, okay, so the world is very linear and the fact that every month, come my premenstrual and menstruation time, I’m experiencing crazy mood swings, all of the stereotypical stuff that comes with that time that we’re told to put up with, that we’re told is just part of being a woman. It’s not, actually. What it is is us going against our cyclic nature, our true essence of being a woman.

So, when I realised that, you can then start utilising the time a little bit more effectively. You can start seeing that, actually, those first two sections of our cycle – the pre-ovulation and the ovulation – are times when we can be linear because that energy in our body is masculine. We can get stuff done – we can get a whole ton of stuff done, actually – and we can manifest; we can bring things into fruition really easily when we realise that it’s a superpower.

So, then, when we tip past that ovulation phase and go into pre-menstruation and menstruation, this is our feminine area and this is where the feminine energy comes into its own. If we don’t know how to use it – which so very few of us have been taught or trained or has been shared with us because nobody knew any better because we have been functioning in this masculine society – then of course we’re going to come up against friction. We’re going to feel rage because we don’t understand what’s going on for us; then we take that out on the people in our families and we expect them to understand. Especially we you live with dudes of any kind, we expect them to understand. How can we expect them to understand what’s going on if we don’t understand ourselves?

I think my own personal learning has been knowing myself through my menstrual cycle and knowing what I’m able to create, when I’m able to create, and then when I need to come inwards and not be so social and not be so out there in the world. I’ve actually now been able to create a really amazing life. And as you said, it’s no coincidence. It really isn’t, because you realise that you’re not consistent and, guess what? That’s okay. You’re able to access SHE powers in each of the phases.

There are powers in all of them, even the premenstrual and menstruation, and for me they’ve become way more powerful than the previous two now – although that’s taken a bit of work, so I’m not asking everyone to fall in love with PMS. But seeing PMS as an indicator that something is wrong, seeing PMS as an indicator that you’re not getting what you need in life, yes – that’s where PMS is really good.

So, yes, my life really was… 10 years ago, as I kind of discovered this work through having endometriosis, which… You know, they say your womb is where the light comes in – it definitely was for me. It’s now meant that I’m able to live a life that’s totally in synch with me. I’m not trying to be in synch with the world, so I’m not going against my own cyclic nature anymore. When I don’t do that, it’s so much easier to create books – my whole book was done in synch with my cycle. I know my work is about this, so I’m very blessed in that respect, but I won’t take clients when I’m bleeding because that’s my time; that’s my time to really connect with myself and download what needs to be downloaded and to fill up my well so that I’m ready then to work through the next cycle to create and to be and to do what needs to happen in that cycle. So, yes, I guess I work much more cyclically; my abundance levels are high.

And I have an amazing relationship with my husband because I know me; I’m able to share with him. He’s written a section in the book so that women can leave it open for any boy-kinds that are in their lives – it doesn’t necessarily have to be husbands; it can be any kind of dude in your life – to understand what is going on for women each month. He said it was a revelation for him. Knowing that this is happening in a woman’s life every month means that he’s been able… He knows now that there are going to be days when he just needs to chuck chocolate at me from a distance and it’s not his fault and that’s okay. We have so very few arguments now because of that and it feels good. It feels juicy to live this way.

Nicola: Absolutely!  I’m really interested in what you said there about this idea that we should be consistent and we should consistently be able to be taking action and be out there, and if we’re not doing that there’s the idea that there’s something wrong with us.

I know I’ve certainly, in the past, felt like I was doing fine and felt I was really on it, and then all of a sudden I’m not feeling right and something’s gone wrong. And to use PMS as a sign, like you say, that actually you’re not getting what you need, you’re not doing what you need to do is really empowering, isn’t it.

Lisa: I think so. And also, at that time, our premenstrual time is a time when we can really feel that “not good enough” voice come up really loud in us as well. That’s because we’re trying to exist in a linear kind of construct, in this linear world of goal orientation.

For dudes that’s great; that’s how they get stuff done. And for lots of women, you’re able to do it to a certain extent but you will burn out if you do because you’re not getting what you need in that. So, it’s all very good to do that, and I know it would be very controversial to women that are very goal-orientated, that can get shit done, that can make it happen; but they will suffer for that.

That’s not me being a bringer of doom and it doesn’t necessarily mean that will be now. It could be when you reach menopause because you completely avoided the subject of being a woman because you’ve been working in a very masculine way.

Women who are successful in business and doing it in a very masculine way are not honouring themselves in that process too. What is exciting now is that I can see women taking on this feminine model and realising that there has to be a balance; that we can use the masculine energy in the first part of our cycle, but we have to acknowledge and then use the feminine energy in the second half of the cycle so that we understand that we are good enough. When we get to that point in ovulation, you feel like you’re superwoman; you feel like you could do anything, be anyone, you can get goals done.

Then what happens is we slide into pre-menstruation and that’s not the case anymore because, actually, you’re being called into yourself; you’re being called home. But if you don’t know that, that kind of energy dip – which is hormonal and is happening because you need to slow down in order to fill up – if you don’t know that’s what’s happening, it becomes another really fricking big stick to beat yourself up with for not being good enough and not being able to deliver on time.

Today I’m day 23 in my cycle, so I’m in pre-menstruation time now. I’m not as articulate as I need to be to be doing a phone call with you right now! So, I know that about myself, but I’m like, “You know what? Show up anyway.” And that’s all you can do, is show up as you are and do what needs to be done in a way that feels good.

I know that I can talk to you – that’s all good – but I know that if we’d spoken two weeks ago you would have got a way more snappy, articulate version of me. Today you’re getting this version of me, which is a truthful one and which is a chatty one, but not necessarily an articulate one!

Nicola: You sound pretty articulate to me! And actually it’s interesting, isn’t it, because we’d planned to do this interview last week at a different point in your cycle. So, I think it’s really interesting that we weren’t able to do it then and it’s ended up being now.

Lisa: Absolutely! And we can’t beat ourselves up about any of this stuff, but women, we do. I don’t want women to read the book and go, “Oh no! I can only do phone interviews in the first half of my cycle!” You know what? That’s a superpower – you can use it. That’s all I’m sharing, is that there’s a superpower in the first part of your cycle. Your hormone levels mean that you can speak way more articulately, be way more to the point. But actually, in this half of the cycle you’ll speak a deeper truth – so, there’s more chance that I might be a little bit more woo-woo than maybe I would have been in that part of the cycle.

If you did an interview with me every week for the next four weeks, you’d get a different version of this interview. I think that’s the authenticness that women need to be bringing to their business in how we work. It’s that because we show up differently each week; we’re a different woman each week.

When people accuse womankind, “I don’t know which one you are,” it’s like, yes, that’s pretty much the case. We need to learn to embrace that and realise that we view the world through different eyes in each phase of our cycle and that’s totally okay.

Nicola: Yes. And actually, just knowing that enables me to breathe a huge sigh of relief. It’s okay!

You mentioned that the first half of the cycle is more masculine energy. In the second half of the cycle, are there any specific ways that you could give us to use that more feminine energy? It’s not something that we’re really encouraged to do, generally, or told about. Are there any specific things that we can do in that second part of the cycle to help us?

Lisa: What will happen hormonally is that everything starts to dip; your energy levels get lower and that’s why we suffer from the pain that we do generally, because we’re still trying to truck on through and really still create the same levels that we were at during the last two weeks. That’s just not physically possible and that’s when the pain occurs. So, it is a case of slowing down.

For example, today, I run a business, you run a business, so I can’t say to you, “No, I only do phone calls in the first part of the cycle. I only speak in the first part of the cycle.” But what you can do is start to minimise your workload. So, I make sure all of my calls are booked in for those first two weeks – if it doesn’t happen that’s totally okay, but it just means that as I’m slowing down I’ve got less to do.

I know there will be some resistance to the idea at first, but I promise that if you work with the phases of your cycle you’ll realise you get more done when you’re doing less. I’ve got a book coming out next week, so the book is launching during a time that I will be bleeding – that’s not ideal, but that’s just how it’s happened. It was meant to be out previously and it hasn’t been. All of these things, you have to trust there’s a reason for it and you then have to find support mechanisms for it.

So, for me, I need to be slowing down so I just need to take each thing slower. If you’re used to going fast, the idea of slowing down is hard, and this phase especially will bring out the critic in you: “Who do you think you are? You can’t take time out! You’ve got too much to do! You’ve got this, you’ve got that!” Slow down. Do yoga, take deep breaths. I don’t care if it all sounds clichéd – clichés are clichés for a reason.

This is the time in your cycle that you’re being asked to listen to your inner wisdom. This is when our intuition is at its strongest if we allow ourselves to listen in, if we allow ourselves to be still long enough to hear what’s being said.

I think that’s a big thing for women. We should all be doing business from a place of intuition because we are wise and we are wild as well. This is a time where the untamedness of us, our truth, can really come through if we allow it to. And so it is a case of allowing. We all need a permission slip and Code Red is the permission slip to actually be living life in that way – but you really have to trust. You have to trust that this isn’t some other kind of self-help concept; this is happening in your body right now. If you’re in your bleeding years, this is happening in your body right now; if you’re not in your bleeding years and you’ve either had a brought-on menopause or a natural menopause, you will see that also through the cycle of the moon, which is also roughly 28 to 29 days. It’s possible for us all to follow that. You can see that as the moon wanes – which is the same period of our premenstrual and our menstrual phase in our bodies – that we are being called to slow down. In the olden days, it was a time that was revered in women; this was a really powerful time. Men would come to worship these women because they knew that these women were smart: “Give me the answers to this.” They were oracles. Your womb is your oracle; if you let it become that it can be – it can give you the answers that you need.

It’s just slowing down, quietening down, especially if you’re in a quite high-powered, stressy, job, to give yourself even 10 minutes a day as you’re going into that premenstrual phase. And like I say, I don’t want people to change it overnight, but I’d love people just to experience in that phase of the cycle what slowing down for 10 minutes and bringing your awareness to that area – to your womb, to your ovaries, maybe just placing your hand on that space – and really just feeding into what that means, what that area is trying to tell you.

But even putting your hand on your belly actually is like, “What?!” for some women I’ve worked with – they find even that a difficulty because we don’t bring our attention to that space. So, just bringing our attention to that space, slowing down and getting quiet would be my advice.

Nicola: Absolutely. As you were speaking about that, I was just remembering that as I was reading Code Red, one of the big light bulb moments for me was the idea that actually, when I’m in the first half of my cycle and that more masculine energy, just noticing that I find it hard to slow down and tune into my intuition.

It can be another pressure that we put on ourselves: “Oh, I’ve got to have my meditation practice and I’ve got to sit.” And actually, it’s really hard to do that in the first half of the cycle. I’d never thought about it like that before. I just thought, “Oh, I’m rubbish at meditation,” because I felt I was getting into my practice and then I just can’t sit still, I can’t tune in. But it’s okay in the first couple of weeks of the cycle just to be really in the action and the second half is more about being and tuning in.

Lisa: Absolutely, and you’re right. In the book I outline in each phase different things that you can do to connect because your energy levels will be so different in each phase. So many people beat themselves up when they start a running regime, for example. One week you are going to love to run, especially if that’s what gets your juices going, and if you’ve started to do that practice in your pre-ovulation phase for two weeks you’re going to be the running queen. But come that third week, when we come into that premenstrual phase and running doesn’t seem at all appealing, that’s when, as women, we beat ourselves up: “Oh, I don’t want to run anymore. Clearly, I’m rubbish. Clearly, I’m a failure. I can’t do this.” And it’s not that at all. It’s actually just that your energy levels are calling for you to do something else.

If we were to listen to what our body wanted, it will tell us. Mine knows that it loves to go to the gym in the first week or two of my cycle, and in the second week or two that’s all home practice – I do yoga and do lots of sacred movement and dance and just things that are nourishing for me because we need a lot of nourishment in that second half of the cycle. As women, we are rubbish at nourishing ourselves, which is why the second half of the cycle is so interesting for me. We can really work the first half as women; we’ve got it because that’s what we’re doing in the world out there all the time. But the second half is new territory to us and we’re struggling in that space when actually we should be using it to thrive, because it is our place of intuition, it is our place of knowledge and power if we let it be.

Nicola: How has your business evolved since you’ve been doing this work and really working in alignment with your cycle?

Lisa: I thought it would be hard because, obviously, it is a very niche subject. People do not like you talking about blood and guts, really, which is kind of what I talk about. I talk a lot about blood, I talk a lot about bellies and intuition and all of those things – which, for me, are the blood and guts of being a woman. And yet that’s not socially acceptable yet; it’s still very much a taboo to talk about our periods in public, even. It’s still a whispered thing and we’ve got a very mixed up, crazy language for periods, let alone our lady bits. So, to then make this my business was like, “Oh, okay.” But it happened.

I put it into practice first. I run a very SHE-led business; I’m a very feminine-led business. Saying that, I don’t mean it’s all about the feminine; it’s just that in your cycle you’re able to see, experience and feel the balance and what it feels like to be truly in balance with the masculine and the feminine. For me, that means that I’m SHE-led because I’m listening, because I’m intuitively working with what is going on in my body, and so that’s how I run my business now. I was worried that I wouldn’t attract the right clients when actually, when I became the teacher I needed to be… I listened to a podcast the other day and they mentioned this. It’s usually the other way round, that when you’re ready the teacher will appear, but actually it feels like I’ve become the teacher and the clients have appeared because this is necessary – this is actually a really powerful way for us, as women, to create business. I’ve doubled my income by working this way, which is important and isn’t important in equal measures. It’s nice to have good money and it’s nice to be paid to do something I love and that I’m passionate about, and also proof that it’s necessary.

I was told, “I can’t believe you’re choosing this as a business.” I was a writing coach and still am, but now I use the cyclic nature of us as women to help women find a way to write, because I wrote my last book in this cyclic energy and it was like, “Oh my goodness! Why wasn’t I told this when I started writing books?” So now, actually everything I do is in tune with the cycle and everything I share is cyclic too. So, yes, it’s become amazing. I’ve got no other words for it, really. It’s like I said to you previously, it’s almost like a life upgrade by understanding myself better. That’s what I feel I’ve been gifted through having endometriosis, which is ridiculous. The pain and discomfort that came with that has led me to now have a completely upgraded life, thanks to my womb!

Nicola: I love that – a life upgrade! Just imagine what would have happened if you’d gone along with what the doctors had said to you and just had it all whipped out, how your life could be different. It doesn’t bear thinking about, does it?

Lisa: No. And just having trusted myself in that moment… I was about 27, I guess. Actually, I don’t want to be aging myself unnecessarily! I was in my twenties, I remember, and to realise that there was a moment that I did trust my intuition and that was to say, “Absolutely not – that is not what is happening. I’m going to find another way.” And so I found that other way, and that other way has led me to this and now I’m able to share that with women – depending on which day of my cycle as to how articulately I share that! Which is why I’ve written a book, because I can write words – that I know. But it’s incredibly powerful to listen to our inner voices and our wisdom that we have in abundance if we just allow it to come through.

Nicola: Absolutely. Lisa, I could literally talk to you all day.

Lisa: Bless your heart! Probably not to day though – geez, Louise!

Nicola:For women who are listening today and maybe women who haven’t even thought about this before and haven’t thought about their cycles and how it has an impact on their lives in general, how can they get started with this work? Obviously they can get hold of their copy of Code Red – we’ll put the link to be able to buy that following this recording. But how can they connect with you further? What’s the best way to do that?

I have a website, which is thesassyshe.com. I run programmes, workshops, online programmes for those of you who aren’t able to get to in-person stuff. But even if you just buy the book, the book has a downloadable cycle repair kit that comes free with the book, and all I want for women is for them to know their flow. If we know what our menstrual cycle is doing… If you don’t start in that point, we can’t do the rest of the work. You just need to know your flow, and if it’s really irregular or any of that stuff you’re then able to start pinpointing some of the areas where you can say, “Oh, do you know what? I’m not good on that day. On this day I’m flying! I got so much done.” So, that’s all I ask of women, really. I’d love for you to work with me, but ideally I would just want you to know your flow because if you know how your menstrual works you can then work with it to create a really amazing life.
Did you mean in terms of connecting with me? Did I just go off on one?

Nicola: No, you didn’t!

Lisa: Website, Instagram, Facebook: they’re where I hang out. I like Instagram a lot, so come and see me there. That’s my favourite.

Nicola: That’s fantastic. Thank you so much, Lisa. It’s such a joy to speak with you and this work is just fascinating. It’s created such an impact in my life and my business, and that’s why I really wanted to speak to you so I’m delighted to be able to. Thank you.

Lisa: Amazing. Thank you for having me. You’re a superstar.

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