My 8 Top Books of 2015

My top 8 Books of 2015I’ve always been a book-worm!  Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve often to be found, squirrelled away with my nose in a book.  So as we approach the end of 2015, I thought I’d look back and reflect on the books that have impacted on me the most this year (get them on your Christmas list!).

Please note: some of these books were actually published in 2015, but most of them weren’t.  I wanted to include books that I’ve particularly enjoyed this year, regardless of when they were published.

Btw you can find a link to each book by clicking on the title.

1) ‘Women Who Run With the Wolves’ by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

I first read this book when I was doing my counselling training a few years ago, as it was on the recommended reading list.  I enjoyed it at the time, but didn’t connect with it fully.

I decided to re-read it earlier this year and oh my goodness, it blew me away!  When I read it in bed before going to sleep, I would often have powerful, symbolic dreams.

By exploring and sharing stories from throughout time and around the world, Estes tells us about the ‘wild woman’ who’s there within all of us.

I can imagine that reading this book will be a yearly ritual for me from now on.

This is for you if you want to dive deep into what it is to be a woman.

2) ‘The Desire Map‘ by Danielle Laporte

In truth, I read this at the end of 2014, but it’s had a profound effect on me this year.

Laporte turns goal-setting on its head and leads us through a process to identify our Core Desired Feelings before creating more practical goals to generate these feelings.

This book had me sitting with a dictionary and thesaurus to drill down into the meanings of my shortlist of core desired feelings, so I could find the most potent version of them.

By working through The Desire Map I identified ‘Unbound’ as my prime desired feeling and this has guided me throughout the year with the choices I’ve made and the work I’ve focused on.

I’ll be coming back to it this year to re-evaluate my core desired feelings for 2016.

This is for you if you’re tired of ‘normal’ goal-setting and are ready to create Goals with Soul.

3) ‘The Art of Asking’ by Amanda Palmer

I’m reading this right now and I’ve pretty much devoured it in a couple of days (which is always a good sign!)

I often write about enhancing your receive-ability as a key money mastery principle and this book looks at it from a slightly different angle.  Palmer talks super-compellingly about her own experience of asking for help, money, a bed for the night whilst touring with her band and all sorts of other things.

She also writes about the importance of community, building your tribe of raving fans and how to do this using social media and blogging.  All this combined with insights into her relationship with author, Neil Gaiman.

Believe me, this book is SO much more interesting than I’ve just made it sound!

This is for you if you need to get better at asking for support (and we pretty much ALL need to do that).

4) ‘The Big Leap‘ by Gay Hendricks

I read this book for the third time this year, so it has to go on the list.  I even wrote a blog post and created a video about it (click here to have a peek).

In it Hendricks talks about how to move through the self-imposed barriers we create to receiving success, abundance and love.  He calls these (often subconscious) barriers Upper Limit Problems.

Every time I read this book I take something new from it and I’m always recommending it to clients.  It’s helped me to identify and move through MANY Upper Limit Problems over the past couple of years.

A must-read.

This is for you if you’re prone to self-sabotage.

5) ‘Code Red‘ by Lisa Lister

I am a self-confessed super-fan of Lisa Lister’s and when she released this book earlier in the year, I was lucky enough to have read an advance copy.

In Code Red, Lisa writes about how to harness the super-powers of your menstrual cycle – how to live and work in alignment with the rhythms of nature.

This information has transformed the way I run my business and given me permission to be gloriously inconsistent.

Click here to hear a special interview I recorded with Lisa where we talk all things ‘Code Red’.

This is for you if you’re a woman (or you live or work with a woman).

6) ‘Big Magic‘ by Elizabeth Gilbert

I’d been waiting for this book to come out for much of the year.  I’m an avid follower of Elizabeth Gilbert on Facebook and often share her posts.

This book is about creativity and how to move through the challenges we often experience when we attempt to create something.

There are some fantastic perception-shifters here – my personal favourite was rather than being hung-up on having to follow your passion, follow your curiosity instead.  It felt like such a relief to read this!

This is for you if you long to create anything in this world.

7) ‘Succulent Wild Woman‘ by SARK

I first read this book a couple of years ago and was called back to it again recently on a rainy Sunday.  I pretty much read the whole thing again in a few hours.

I ADORE this book!  SARK writes about love, money, sexuality, business, creativity and adventure with the most amazing zest and lightness.

Plus she extols the many virtues of napping, which I love.  The other day when I was working on my book and didn’t feel like sitting at my desk, I remembered how SARK often took to her bed to write in her pyjamas and I joyfully granted myself permission to follow suit.

This is for you if you are a woman who loves (or would like to do more) extravagant lounging.

8) ‘Ask and it is Given‘ by Esther and Jerry Hicks

Again this is a book that I’ve read before, but when I revisited it this year I took much more from it.

Presenting the teachings of Abraham, Esther and Jerry Hicks help us learn how to manifest our desires.  What I particularly like are the 22 different processes they give us at the end of the book – all simple ways to raise your vibration and attract more into your life.  I use many of these in my daily life.

Since reading this book, I’ve become an avid watcher of Abraham Hicks videos on Youtube and I always take away a new snippet of inspiration.

This is a joyful, expansive book and one I’ll come back to time and time again.

This is for you if you want to learn more about the law of attraction.

So that’s my top 8 books of 2015.

I didn’t want to create a list of 10 just for the sake of it, but there are some books that just missed out.

The Miracle Morning‘ by Hal Elrod    If you want to create a powerful morning ritual

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying‘ by Marie Kondo   If you want to become a decluttering queen

You Can Heal You Life‘ by Louise Hay   If you want to create a life you love (and let’s face it, who doesn’t?)

I’d love you to comment below and let me know what your top book of 2015 is.  Maybe it’s one of mine (and if not, I’m always looking for new inspiration).

Happy reading!

Nicola x

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Radical non-action

Radical Non-ActionIs it just me, or do you ever feel that life (and business) makes NO sense whatsoever?

You know those times when it feels like you’re doing all the ‘right’ things – following the same kind of plans and systems that are working for everyone else – but you’re just not seeing the results you hoped for.

It just doesn’t make sense, right?

And it can feel super-frustrating.

I know, because I have SO been there.

To be honest, in the 6 years I’ve been in business, most of the time there hasn’t been a whole lotta correlation between the action I’ve taken (writing blogs, marketing myself, being on social media, creating products, running events) and the results I’ve seen.

A couple of friends who run their own businesses asked me over the summer how I attract clients and my answer was, ‘I don’t really know!’

Because the truth is that my clients tend to come to me in unexpected ways, rather than via elaborately created marketing funnels.

Whether it’s seeing one of my EFT videos on Youtube and knowing they want to work with me, or just having a feeling that I’m the person to help them, my clients just show up (often very randomly).

And when that happens, it’s wonderful (of course), but it can also feel pretty erratic.  I mean, how do you make plans or set goals when your clients just rock up whenever it ‘feels right’?

In the past it’s felt like there’s been no real pattern to the results I created in my business.  I knew that doing inner work (using EFT, hypnotherapy and journalling) made a difference – but any practical action I took didn’t seem to have any specific impact.

Over the summer I started to feel burned out and the flow of new clients dried up (I wrote about it here) and I instinctively knew that I had to just STOP.

So I did.

I stopped taking any action in my business.

I stopped ‘trying’ to attract new clients.

I stopped sending my newsletter every week without fail.

I rested.

I decorated my kitchen.

I went for daily walks.

AND prospective clients started to contact me again.

I gave myself permission to slow down and my business started to flow without me taking any particular action.

In fact, earlier this week I started working with 3 new clients – one of whom I first met two years ago and another who first enquired about working with me 18 months ago, and they both suddenly decided that now feels like the right time.

So what on earth is the lesson here?

How can you and I use this experience to create even more abundance in our lives and businesses?

What I’ve come to believe is, it’s REALLY simple.

Perhaps so simple that we resist believing it (because as the wonderful humans we are, we kinda expect things to be complicated).

What I’ve found is the less I DO, the more I receive.

The more I relax and feel good, the more I attract into my life.

That it’s not about the action you take, it’s about the way you FEEL.

And in one form or another, I realise I’ve heard this many times in the past.  One of my coaches always used to say, ‘Your only job is to feel good’ (and this would trigger the hell out of me.  I’d think, ‘Yes, but how is that going to pay the bills?’)

But what I’ve seen over the past few months is that I really need to do very little (much, much less than you would ever think) to attract clients and make money.

It doesn’t seem to make sense, but that’s how it’s been working.  And I know in the past that I’ve always had the best months in my business when I’ve been feeling good and often after taking a holiday.

But how do you translate this into your own life and business?

Because I know it can be pretty darn frustrating to hear someone say – ‘Just go with the flow. Focus on feeling good and everything will turn out fine’.

Well here’s what’s worked for me:

Not being attached to any particular goal or outcome.  I KNOW this can be super-annoying to hear too!  I could write a whole other blog post on this (and probably will), but put simply – be playful with your goals, see them as a kinda game and always be open to other outcomes.

If you start feeling icky about something (under pressure, busy, anxious, stressed), take a break and do something different. Get outside and go for a walk or take a nap.  Just before starting to write this blog post, I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do (or whether I wanted to do anything!), so rather than just keeping myself busy, I went for nap and the inspiration for this article came to me.  I’ve no idea what the response will be, but I’m enjoying writing it (and if it resonates with you, I trust that you’ll let me know!)

Do way less than you feel you ‘should’ be doing.  Seriously, many of us seem to be caught up in an epidemic of busy-ness, constantly on-the-go and doing something.  Strip your to-do list back to the bare minimum, only do the absolute essentials and stuff you really enjoy. Apart from that, allow yourself to just be.  (And rest far more than you think you need to.)  At the moment I’m working about 3 hours per day and believe me, the world hasn’t stopped!

Practice delayed gratification.  If you’re anything like me, you get a 100 different ideas about things to do in your business every single day (I may be exaggerating slightly, but sometimes it feels like it!)   I used to believe that I had to implement every single idea that came to me – so I would start something and then something else would come along and I’d end up feeling overloaded and distracted. Not good.  My head is still a very busy place, but now I’ve given myself permission to delay acting on any inspirations that come to me.  When my thoughts go into overdrive, I simply send thanks to my mind for being so creative and remind myself that my number one focus at the moment is writing my first book.  If I’m still wanting to take an idea forward after a few days, then I might come back to it (but usually my mind has moved onto something else by then!)

Trust. This kind of approach to business (or life in general) demands a huge amount of trust.  It can feel completely counter-intuitive to do less and purely focus on feeling good.  All sorts of limiting beliefs have come up for me, especially the idea that I’m just being lazy.  But the proof is in the pudding.  For the last few months, I’ve been working about 50% less than I had been and my income is the same as it was, if not higher.  Go figure. Seriously, the Universe does not require you to run yourself ragged. Try doing less and see what happens for you.

As I was out walking today, I realised that I could sum my new approach to business up as radical non-action.

I’m allowing myself to do very little and everything I am doing, I’m doing because I enjoy it.

I must admit, it does feel strange at the moment.  I keep catching myself trying to create work so I can feel busy, because I feel like I should be doing something.

And it feels strange (and a little scary) to realise that there’s no particular system or action steps that I can follow to create a specific outcome.

But I’m enjoying this process of letting go.

So, watch this space as I’m sure I’ll be writing more about radical non-action (or not, depending on how I feel).

 

 

 

An exercise for when you’re tired of waiting for what you want to show up

An exercise for when you're tired of waiting for what you want to show upI was just working with a client who feels like she has spent the past couple of years waiting for what she wants to arrive.

She’s fed-up and frustrated with waiting.

Whenever she feels like she’s getting somewhere, another obstacle seems to appear in the way.

She’s finding it difficult to believe she’ll EVER get what she wants.

So here’s what I asked her to do today (and you can do this too if you’re waiting for your dreams to manifest right now):

Remember a time when you were waiting to receive something you really, really wanted.

You wanted it SO much, you thought about it all the time and it felt like you might not ever get it.

You yearned for that thing and it seemed like you’d been waiting for ever.

Then remember the moment when you actually received that thing.

See what you can see in that moment.

Hear what you can hear.

Smell what you can smell.

Taste what you can taste.

Feel how you feel physically, mentally and emotionally to FINALLY receive that thing you’ve been waiting for.

Allow yourself to experience that feeling in every cell in your body.

Know on every level that it’s possible to receive something you’ve been waiting for.

When you do this, you can’t help but let go of resistance, even if it’s just for a few moments. You move from a vibration of waiting and frustration into a place of receiving, joy and excitement.

So, if you’re waiting for something to show up in your life right now, do this short exercise every day either when you wake up in the morning or before you go to sleep at night.

And be ready to welcome your dreams into reality.

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What to do when you’re feeling burned out

What to do when you're feeling burned outOver the past few weeks, I’ve been feeling burned out.

To be honest, I think it was building for a while but I ignored it and a couple of Mondays ago, it hit me.

I finally gave in to the fact that I was feeling low, exhausted and lacking any sort of motivation.

I also acknowledged that over the past month or so, my business had slowed down.  And as September arrived, things weren’t picking up in the way I expected.  In fact, as I finished working with some long-term clients, there were no new enquiries to replace them.

Fact: When you’re feeling depleted emotionally and energetically, it will be reflected in all other areas of your life, including your bank balance.

I’d been moving along, everything going just swell and believing that I had the balance right, but really I’d been thinking about my business constantly- making plans, thinking about ‘what’s next?’ and setting myself ever-higher goals.

That’s why I burned out.

And the Universe in it’s infinite wisdom was making me see it.A temporary pause in action

I even pulled this angel card during my Monday morning meditation. ‘Seeds well planted. A temporary pause in action. Unnecessary worry.’

At first I thought, ‘You have got to be kidding me? I’ve done ALL of this work the past few years and this can still happen to me?’

But I knew I had to listen and to pay attention to the signs to get myself back on track.

And as I know that we all have times like this, I want to share the steps I took to create a shift for myself (actually ‘steps’ implies that I took action, but really it’s more about non-action).

So, here’s my advice for times when you’re feeling burned out:

Give yourself permission to pause and just be – really not easy for me, as I felt a strong urge to ‘do’.  I couldn’t resist taking some action, but mostly I switched off from my business.  Only do what you absolutely HAVE to do. (Hint: this will be much less than you think).

Ask for support – as soon as I realised this wasn’t just going to pass by ignoring it, I talked to those closest to me and let them know what was going on and how I was feeling. Just doing this felt like a huge release and helped me to take some time out, rather than carrying on pretending it was all ‘business as usual’.

I also had an angel card reading with the completely awesome Isobel Gatherer, which affirmed many of the messages that had been coming through to me.  Sometimes you just need to hear the words from someone else.

Trust and know this is happening for a reason – when things are ticking along nicely, we don’t have any real incentive to create change in our lives.  That’s why every now and again, the Universe will send you a curve ball, almost forcing you to reflect and reassess.  See this as a good thing – you’re growing, shifting and up-levelling.

Move into receiving mode – when you burn-out it’s likely that you’ve been over-giving and now it’s time to balance that out by switching into receiving mode. Allow yourself to receive support, love, money (even from unexpected sources), gifts, care and attention. Demonstrate that you’re open to receive, so you can open up the flow again.

Journal about your feelings (and tap) – I’m not the most consistent journal-keeper, but at times like this I know it helps to get it all out of my head and on to paper.  Once I’ve written about how I’m feeling, I use EFT to tap on the emotions that are coming up for me.

Focus on something completely different – I was pretty lucky this last few weeks, as Mr H and I are currently renovating our kitchen. So rather than endlessly thinking about my business, I spent a lot of time painting and being an apprentice to Mr H as he tiled, fitted worktops and plumbed in new taps.  (I usually hate decorating, but I found this SO therapeutic!)

Now, you’re probably not in the midst of major renovations, but you can clean, clear, paint, draw, knit, bake, garden – anything that allows you to be mindful and switch off.

In addition to all of the above, I’ve also given myself a prescription to do the following:

  • Go for an hour’s walk every day
  • Sleep (as much as I need, which has been a lot)
  • Consume uplifting (rather than purely informational) material, such as books, videos and podcasts (my favourites have been Elizabeth Gilbert’s Magic Lessons podcast and any Abraham Hicks videos on YouTube)
  • Limit my time on social media

So, that’s what I’ve been doing these past couple of weeks or so and things are starting to turn a corner.

I’ve had new client enquiries and past clients returning to me.

I’ve had a couple of speaking invitations and my local newspaper emailed to ask if I could send them something about a networking event I’m hosting this week so they can cover it.

And I have a new sense of clarity about what to focus on next.

So my message to you, for times when you’re struggling, is hold on, be kind to yourself, know that this will pass and you are always supported.

Much love,

Nicola x

A tapping routine to help you manage your inner critic

A tapping routine to help you manage your inner criticWhen was the last time you heard from your inner critic (that negative, doubting voice in your mind that can find a multitude of ways to say you’re not good enough)?

If you’re anything like me and the clients I work with, your inner critic can pop up many times throughout the day.

Your inner critic is there to keep you safely within your comfort zone – that’s her job.

She has a good intention, but often she goes about it in an unhelpful way.

The good news is that you also have a more loving, accepting voice in your mind that you can choose to listen to.

A voice that tells you, ‘Yes, you can do this!’

This is your authentic, higher self and she’s a JOY to listen to.

But when your inner critic gets going, it can feel easy to slide into a downward spiral, deciding that your chosen course of action or new, juicy goal just isn’t worth bothering with.

So, what can you do to shift your awareness away from your inner critic and towards your authentic, higher self?

One super-effective method is to tap, using the powerful tool of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).

I’ve created a short and simple tapping routine to help you manage your inner critic and listen to that more loving, accepting voice.  Just watch the video below and tap along.

Once you’ve tapped through the routine, comment below to let me know how you feel afterwards.

You can use this video whenever you feel your inner critic is starting to hold you back.

Here’s to listening to your authentic, higher self!

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The 3 reasons I became a raving fan of network marketing

The 3 reasons I become a raving fan of networkEarlier this year I made a commitment that I’d be financially free by my 45th birthday in December 2016.  (Click here to see me making my scary public declaration!)

At the time I had no idea quite how I was going to make this happen, but once I’d made the decision I knew I had to start putting a strategy together pretty darn quickly!

There are many different routes to financial freedom and I needed to find one that would get me there in around 18 months (no pressure then!).

I decided to blend together a combination of strategies, including investing in assets, creating passive income products and building an affiliate income, but as my main vehicle to financial freedom I chose network marketing.

Now network marketing (or multi-level marketing as it’s also known) can be viewed pretty negatively by many people. In fact, I was reluctant to come out about my network marketing business initially (you can see my blog post about it here.)

But after doing my research, I decided that this was going to be the most powerful way for me to create true financial freedom in a relatively short time-scale.  And the more I found out about network marketing, the more appealing it became.

So, let me share with you the top three reasons why I became a raving fan of network marketing:

 

1) Equality of opportunity

The top earners in my network marketing organisation earn six-figures each month.  And they’re not particularly special in any way.  They weren’t parachuted into their roles.  They started out just like anyone else who starts a network marketing business.

BUT unlike a normal, corporate company where new employees are very unlikely to work their way to the top (and the top salaries), in network marketing everyone has exactly the same opportunity to move up through the organisation.

What’s even better is that you’ll only move up towards the top if you help and support others to do the same.

Many people think of network marketing as some kind of pyramid scheme (I certainly did before educating myself about this business model).  They imagine that it’s a scam where a select number of people at the top of the pyramid make money from all the people at the bottom (sounds like every other organisation out there to be honest!)

The first thing to say here is that pyramid schemes are illegal. Pyramid schemes offer no product or service and people make money simply from encouraging other people to join the scheme.

But the most important point is, unlike traditional businesses where you might struggle for years just to reach middle-management and a half-decent salary, with network marketing every single person who joins, regardless of their background, education or financial situation, has the ability to move up through the ranks (often surprisingly quickly) and achieve life-changing incomes.

I’ve never seen such amazing equality of opportunity.  And it’s SO exciting to know that you have the possibility to earn the kind of salary that most of us were conditioned to believe was a dream.

 

2) The power of TEAM

As I said in the previous point, the only way to be successful in a network marketing business is to nurture and support other people to do well.  You have to work as a team.

After years of running my own business and working pretty much alone, I had forgotten how fun and rewarding it was to be part of a team.

Now I enjoy having the support of my upline (I don’t have to do it all on my own any more!) and I LOVE  the satisfaction that comes from growing my own team.  Everyone bounces off everyone else, new ideas flow and we learn from each other

I personally support each member of my team to be the best they can be, offering coaching and mindset work that is usually reserved for my private clients.

When I made my decision to create financial freedom by the age of 45, I knew that it would be difficult (if not impossible) to do it alone.  I wanted to harness a power greater than myself and I knew that the way to do this was to help as many other people as possible to move towards financial freedom at the same time.

Network marketing is the perfect vehicle to do this

When we come together, we become more.  Fact.

 

3) First-class personal development

When I joined my network marketing company, I was told that the level of training and support was excellent.  But to tell you the truth, I kinda thought I wouldn’t really need it, as I’ve done a HUGE amount of personal development over the years.

What I actually found was that when I tapped into the training and development within my organisation, it was incredible.

My company offer weekly, monthly and annual trainings which are second-to-none (even as a old-hand, personal development junkie!)

I move to a new level of inspiration and motivation each time I attend a training (either online or in-person) and it’s wonderful to know that each member of my team is benefiting from the same level of support.

Being part of a network marketing business means that you are continuously growing and expanding your comfort zone.  It’s a dream-come-true for someone like me who values personal growth so highly.

So, that’s the three top reasons why it was a no-brainer for me to choose network marketing as my prime vehicle to financial freedom.

If you’re reading this and thinking you’d like to create financial freedom for yourself, but you’re not sure HOW right now, then I’d love to offer you a complimentary 30-minute Financial Freedom Strategy Call with me.
During this call, we’ll look at where you are right now, where you want to be and anything that might have been holding you back in the past. You’ll leave the call with a crystal-clear plan of action to take you along the path to financial freedom.
So, if you’re serious about creating change in your life, click here to complete the initial questionnaire and I’ll be in touch soon to arrange a time for us to talk.

3 super-fun ways to attract more riches into your life

3 super-fun ways to attract more richesIf you follow my blog, you’ll know that I’m all about having a playful approach to creating wealth.

I strongly believe that you can create a rich life without sacrifice and struggle.

So, today I want to share with you 3 really fun ways you can attract MORE into your life.

1) Play the 10 x game

This idea comes from the transformational book ‘The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity‘ by Catherine Ponder (if you haven’t read it, check it out!)

Ponder shares a super-simple technique to boost your prosperous thinking.

She suggests that whenever you think about money – whether it’s the money in your wallet, in your bank account, a payment from a client or a bill you’re paying – begin mentally increasing your money supply by thinking of 10 times that amount coming to you.

So, say you have £10 in your purse, look at it and declare:

‘I give thanks that this £10 is just a symbol of the inexhaustible substance of the universe. I give thanks that ten times this amount or £100 is now on its way to me and quickly manifests in perfect ways.’

By expecting that every amount of money you experience is coming to you multiplied by 10, you’ll switch from an ‘I haven’t got enough’ attitude of lack to an excited ‘I can’t wait to receive what’s coming to me’ attitude of abundance.

Start playing this game today and you can’t help but raise your vibration (attracting MORE into your life in the process!)

2) Expect the best possible outcome

How do you feel about the goals you set for yourself (particularly when it comes to money)?

Do you set yourself a financial goal and then start doubting that you can achieve it?  Maybe you imagine yourself creating a particular income and get excited about the possibility, but then scale your goal back as you don’t want to end up feeling like a failure if you don’t reach it?

In my 6 years as a hypnotherapist, I’ve worked with people who have all sorts of goals – wanting to be a certain weight, have a baby or reach a particular level of income.  And I’ve heard many of them say they ‘don’t want to get their hopes up’, just in case they don’t achieve their goal.

So, I’ll tell you what I tell my clients – unless you choose to get your hopes UP and get excited about your goal, you’re very unlikely to achieve it.

When you go into something worrying that you might fail, the chances are you probably will!

Whatever you want to create in your life, expect the best possible outcome.

Each morning when you wake up, spend a few minutes mentally rehearsing your day and visualise everything turning out just the way you want it to.

Whenever you begin a new venture, expect it to be successful.

When you choose to to this, not only will you enjoy the journey, but you’re MUCH more likely to create the results you desire (it’s a win-win!)

3) Live your rich life NOW

This is a technique that’s recommended by wealth writers from Denise Duffield-Thomas to T Harv Eker.

The idea is that imagine how your ideal life would be and choose one aspect of it to experience right now.

There will always be something you can do to help you feel rich.

For example, if your dream is to own a house overlooking the ocean, you can book a weekend break in a seafront property, or even just take a daytrip to the coast.

If you’d love to be a member at a luxury health-club, ring them and arrange a day pass for you and a friend.

If you dream about owning a designer handbag, look into hiring one for a period of time.

The idea is that you allow yourself to experience aspects of your dream life right now (you don’t have to wait!)

When you do this, you move into a richer energy and start sending out powerful signals letting the universe know exactly what you desire.

So, there you have three super-simple ways for you to play your way into attracting more riches into your life.

Enjoy, have fun and comment below to let me know which one you like best.

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11 top tips to harness the magical powers of decluttering

11 top tips to harness the magicalWhen we take time to declutter, letting go of anything that no longer serves us, it makes space for the new to flow in.

And when I say ‘declutter’, I don’t just mean your physical environment – your home and workspace. There are some not-so-obvious areas that can make a BIG difference to the way you feel energetically, freeing you up so you can receive what you desire (oh yes!).

So, here are my top 11 areas to declutter in order to attract more abundance into your life (even if you only have a few minutes):

If you have 5 minutes

1) Just one drawer

Pick a drawer, any drawer, and tell yourself that’s all you have to declutter for now.

Take everything out of it and only put back things you need or really want. Everything else can either be sold, given away or thrown out.

The important thing is that this will get you into declutter mode. You’ve started.

2) Handbag

If you’re anything like me (and most women I know) your handbag can become a bit of a black hole!

It doesn’t seem to matter how often I clear my bag out, a few days later I’m finding old receipts, tissues and all sorts in its depths. That’s why it’s the perfect area to declutter – you’ll notice a big impact after a short investment of time.

When you declutter your handbag, you’ll immediately feel lighter and freer.

If you have 15 minutes

3) Car

If your car is an area that feels cluttered and untidy, it will bug you every time you get into it. You’ll find your shoulders dropping as soon as you climb into the driver’s seat.

Take 15 minutes and clear out any rubbish or anything you’ve been ‘storing’ in your car (I once had three boxes of stuff I was planning to donate to charity in my car for weeks before I finally took it to the donation centre!)

If you want to give yourself an extra treat, get your car professionally valeted. You’ll feel like a VIP every time you get into it.

4) Kitchen cupboards

Our kitchen cupboards can often be places that get neglected. As we buy new food, the old cans and jars get pushed to the back, never to be seen again.

It’s time to explore those dark recesses!

Take everything out of your kitchen cupboards (start with just one if the thought of doing them all at once seems overwhelming).

Go through and throw out anything that’s out-of-date or you’re not likely to use.

Be ruthless and only put back into your cupboards food you actually want.

5) Facebook

When you log onto Facebook (or any other social media), do you feel bombarded with the content you see there?

If that’s the case, then it’s time to have a declutter!

Recently I found that I was getting bogged down with notifications as I’m in a number of different Facebook groups. So I’ve made the decision to consciously choose which groups I want to remain a member of.

Unfollow any pages, groups or people that don’t add anything to your life.

If you have 30 minutes

6) Expenses

This is where we move out of the physical domain and into energetic decluttering.

It’s time to look at your expenses (and if you’re feeling resistance here, it’s completely natural. Just notice it and choose to take action anyway).

Give yourself just 15 minutes initially to check your most recent bank statement and go through each item that you’ve spent money on.

For each item ask yourself, ‘Do I really need this or want this?’

If the answer is, ‘No’, then it’s time to let that expense go.

Often we’re paying for subscriptions, services and memberships that we’re not actually using (and just seeing the payment go out each month makes us feel bad!)

Make a list of any payments you want to cancel or amend and do this as soon as you get to the end of your 15 minutes.

Then congratulate yourself as you are now a conscious spender!

7) Email

Is your inbox filled with a seemingly never-ending stream of emails?

I am SO with you there!

Follow these simple steps to clear out your inbox?

  • unsubscribe from any emails that you no longer find helpful (you always subscribe again at a later date if you want to)
  • delete any emails you don’t need to action or respond to,
  • take action on any emails that require a response as soon as you can – don’t leave them sitting in your inbox,
  • set up folders to store important emails for future reference (when you think about it, there probably won’t be that many you actually need to keep)
8) Computer files

We often have loads of ‘stuff’ stored on our laptops and PCs that we no longer need. This both slows down our systems and makes it harder for us to find the information we need.

Give yourself 30 minutes to go through your files and delete any you no longer need.

Set up folders for any important files you want to keep.

You (and your computer) will feel SO much clearer.

For more reflective decluttering

9) People

Eek! This can feel like a tricky one.

The people you surround yourself with have a HUGE impact on your energy.

Ask yourself this question, ‘Do the people I spend time with (either online or in person) lift me up or bring me down?’

For anyone who seems to drain your energy rather than adding to your life, resolve to spend less time with them from now on.

I’m not suggesting you completely cut old friends out of your life (although you may choose to do this with some people), just resolve to be more conscious of who you spend your time with from now on.

10) Mind

Oh yes, your mind! This is what I spend most of my time working on with my clients.

Resolve to become more conscious of your thinking.

Meditation is a great place to start (and it can be super-simple).

Take some time to sit and get quiet.

Bring your attention to your breath – watch as it flows into and out of your body.

After a few breaths, bring your attention to your mind.

Notice any thoughts as they drift into your mind.

Just observe your thoughts, as if you’re watching them from a distance.

Notice how you can allow any thoughts to drift and float away from you until they’re out of your awareness.

If you do this for just a few minutes each day, you’ll find that you’re able to observe your thinking more easily and let go of any unhelpful or worrying thoughts, leaving you with a clearer mind.

11) Work

Do you currently spend your time mostly doing things you LOVE, or is much of your time spent doing work that doesn’t light you up?

It can be easy to fill your time with work (and other activities) that you don’t find rewarding (either emotionally or financially).

At the beginning of this year, I made a decision to let go for some regular work I was doing for a retreat company. Although I enjoyed the client work when I was there, it involved a lot of travelling for me and it took up valuable space for me, both energetically and in my diary.

Although I was apprehensive about letting go of this regular work, as soon as I made the decision, I started to attract more of the ideal clients I love working with.

Think about the work you’re doing right now and be honest about which aspects of it you love (you’re going to keep hold of those!) For anything that doesn’t go on the LOVE list, think about whether you can let it go completely or delegate it to someone else.

When you do this, you’re making it clear to The Universe about what you want to focus on in your life (and you’ll be rewarded accordingly).

So, there you have it – my 11 top decluttering tips.  Which one are you going to do first? Comment below to let me know and benefit from some powerful public accountability.

Here’s to clearing a space for the new to flow in!

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The 3 questions you need to ask BEFORE setting your prices

The 3 questions you need to ask BEFOREPricing can be an ultra-challenging topic for female entrepreneurs.

It’s something that often comes up when I’m working with my money mastery clients.

How do you set prices that feel great for you and attract more of your ideal clients?

As women we often spend far too much time second-guessing when it comes to pricing, worrying whether we’re being ‘too greedy’ and what people will think of us.

And it really doesn’t have to be complicated (I promise!)

So here are my 3 top questions to ask yourself when you’re setting your prices.

1) What are all the ways my product/service will benefit my clients?

I’m sure the main benefit of your product or service is very clear to you (if it’s not, then you need to do some work on that my lovely!) but when you’re thinking about pricing, I want you to look deeper than the top-line benefit.

Give yourself at least 15 minutes and brainstorm all the ways a client benefits from working with you or purchasing your product.

Really go to town and think about all the areas of your client’s life that could be impacted.

For example, the main benefit of working with me is that a client gets to shift their money blocks and increase their income, but in doing that they also get to:

  • take control of their finances, so they feel more powerful and in control,
  • have more open conversations with their partner around money, leading to enhanced relationships
  • get clear on their business model, leading to more focus and more time to do the things they love,
  • improved self-esteem and confidence,
  • feel comfortable being more visible in their business,
  • pay off debts,
  • create savings and investments,
  • attract more of their ideal clients,
  • create residual income streams,have more time and energy for their children,
  • attract more opportunities,
  • etc, etc, etc!

You can see how once you get on a roll, this list can be endless and you get a really clear sense of the value you have to offer to your clients.

Top Tip: To help with this, look back at any feedback and testimonials you’ve received from previous clients.

Once you’ve tuned into all the ways you benefit a client, you can begin to get a sense of a price that reflects this (and very often, it will be higher than you initially thought).

2) Do my prices feel sustainable to me?

Once you have an idea of the price you want to charge for a particular product/service, check in with how many you would have to sell in order to reach your monthly income goal (and if you don’t currently have a monthly income goal, once again there is work to be done!).

For example, say you want to make £2,000 a month and you’re currently charging £20 an hour, then you’ll have to sell 100 hours to reach your goal. That may or may not feel achievable to you, depending on where you are in your business, the time you have available each week and your current marketing.

Alternatively, say you want to make £2,000 a month and you offer a package or product that costs £400, then you only have to sell 5 of these to achieve your goal.

Obviously the price you charge will depend on the value of the product or service you have to offer, but you also want to check in with whether your current pricing feels in alignment with your income goals.

Why?

Well, If it feels like you’re going to have to run yourself ragged to achieve the income you desire, then resistance and self-sabotage are likely to kick in (and you’ll find it difficult to attract clients).

In contrast, if your pricing means that you can serve your clients at the level you want to, whilst still meeting your needs, then business will flow much more easily.

3) What are my beliefs around money and pricing?

This is a biggie and it’s what I spend most of my time working with clients on.

The beliefs you have shape your reality.

So, let’s say you’re a relationship coach and you charge £2,000 for a VIP Day, but you have a belief running that says ‘Who am I kidding? No-one will be willing pay that much.

Guess what? That’s exactly what will be reflected back at you. You’ll either find it hard to attract clients in the first place, or any prospective clients you do speak to won’t be willing to invest at that level.

Other common beliefs I hear around pricing are:

‘No-one will pay that much in the area where I live.’

‘People won’t pay that much for what I have to offer.’

‘This comes so easily to me, I can’t charge much for it.’

‘It would have to be really hard work to make that much money.’

‘I’m not worth that much.’

Like I said, there’s far too much second-guessing going on around pricing.

Many women entrepreneurs make huge assumptions about what their potential clients would be willing to pay.

And there’s a prevalent belief that you have to suffer, struggle and work really damn hard to make good money.

These are all just stories we tell ourselves. And we can change them.

The idea that you can’t charge much for something that comes easily to you?

Rubbish! The fact that the service you provide feels easy for you means that when you do it, you’re in flow. Your clients, who are struggling in the area you’re flowing, need your help and they are willing to pay for it.

The idea that people won’t be willing to pay much in your geographical location or area of expertise?

Poppycock! There are clients at all levels – low, medium and high. You can choose which you want to work with and set your pricing in accordance with that.

Check out your beliefs around pricing. Notice the stories you’re telling yourself right now. And if you feel they’re limiting you, resolve to change them.

So, that’s my 3 questions you need to ask yourself whether you’re just setting your prices or reviewing them.
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I’m coming out…

I'm coming out!So, I learned a really important lesson this week and I want to share it with you today. (You know those times when the Universe gives you a BIG kick up the bum, it was one of those!)

You see, I’ve been hiding.

I’ve been keeping part of myself a secret.

And it’s time for me to let go, trust and allow you see the full picture.

As you might know, I’m currently working towards a big goal of creating financial freedom for myself by my 45th birthday (December 2016).

And I wanted the gorgeous peeps in my community (like you!) to come along on the journey with me. I wanted to share the process and hopefully inspire and empower you to create financial freedom for yourself.

But I’ve been wary of sharing one of my main strategies for doing this.

I’ve been happy to talk about money dates, investing, creating passive income through being an affiliate and reviewing my business model BUT I haven’t talked about a major part of my plan – network marketing.

Yes, my friend, it’s time for me to come out as a network marketer.

Even writing these words makes me feel a bit jittery.

SO many of us carry a huge amount of baggage and limiting beliefs around network marketing (just as we can do around money).

I’m sure we’ve all had experiences of someone approaching us about their network marketing business in an icky way.

So, some of the thoughts that are going through my mind as a I write this are:

‘What will you think of me?’

‘What if you think I’m going to start spamming you?’

‘What if you think I’m part of a pyramid selling scheme?’

‘What if….., what if….., what if……?’

And all of those thoughts have been conspiring to keep me quiet, keep me small and hold me back.

I’ve been building my network marketing business quietly and super-subtly, telling myself that I was doing it ‘my own way’ (turns out ‘my own way’ is only mentioning it to someone if they pretty much battered me over the head and said, ‘Nicola, I need to start creating residual income, I’m desperate for financial freedom. How can you help me to this?’ – or words to that effect!)

That is until last week, when I met up with an amazing friend of mine who I haven’t seen for quite some time.

I knew that she was part of another network marketing company, so in my head I had ruled out the possibility of talking to her about my business. I hadn’t approached her about it and she didn’t even know that I was growing my own network marketing team.

(Seriously, I’ve been SO darn closed off to receive with this part of my business!)

But when we met, I found out that she loved my company’s products (she couldn’t believe that no-one had told her about them before) and had signed-up to join the business under someone else.

She hadn’t even known I was part of the company (because I’d been super-subtle, i.e. in hiding!) and she was gutted that she hadn’t had the opportunity to join my team.

So, she was gutted and I was gutted as she would have been an incredible person to have in my team.

I often talk about a win-win situation and this was a HUGE lose-lose.

And it really hit home to me that by keeping quiet and not making it clear what I had to offer, I’d denied my friend an opportunity. I’d denied her the opportunity of discovering some amazing products much sooner and I’d denied her the opportunity of getting the same level of support that my team are receiving.

All because I’d been scared.

I’d been scared of being open, because I was worried about what people would think of me.

I was scared that if I put anything on social media or in an email about my new network marketing business, people would think I’d become a crazy spambot.

And in being scared, I denied others the chance of benefiting from a wonderful opportunity – one of the best opportunities I know of to create real financial freedom, whilst receiving an amazing level of support.

To be honest, in the past I’d been totally resistant to network marketing. I’d always been totally closed off and if anyone approached me about their opportunity (and I’ve received many approaches over the years), I would be an automatic ‘no’.

It’s only when I started doing the focused money mindset work that I now share with my clients that I became more open.

When a friend approached me last year about joining her network marketing company, I decided to be open to discover more.

And I liked what I discovered!

The truth is, it’s only because I started to build this business that financial freedom is a real possibility for me in a relatively short period of time. If I’d continued purely trading my time for money (even at a relatively high level), it would have taken me YEARS to create financial freedom.

And the crazy thing is, I haven’t been whole-heartedly sharing the opportunity with other people.

Because of my deep-down desire to be a ‘good girl’, i.e. keeping quiet in the corner.

Meeting up with my friend last week made me realise that this had to stop.

I need to come out of hiding and that’s why I’m writing this now.

And whether or not you’re interested in network marketing and the opportunity it presents, there are some lessons for you here:

1) Don’t deny yourself (and the people you can help) by hiding and keeping yourself small. There are people out there who are desperate for what you have to offer and if you don’t put it out there, they’ll never know you exist.

2) Don’t assume that you know what people need or want. Don’t rule people out of working with you before talking to them.

3) Ask yourself whether you’re running a ‘I’ve got to be a good girl’ story and if you are, resolve to let it go. Seriously, there’s a HUGE difference between being ‘good’ (which we’ve often been conditioned to do as young girls) and stepping into your true brilliance.

So, this is me coming out of hiding.

And I’ll be sharing more openly from now on.

But not in a spambot (is that even a word?) icky way.

With much love until the next time,

Nicola x

P.S. The network marketing company I’m working with is Arbonne. I’ve been using their products and getting to know the business for over a year now and I LOVE what I’ve seen. The products are delicious and the culture of the company is super-positive and supportive.

P.P.S. This doesn’t mean I won’t be working 121 with clients from now on. My Arbonne business sits perfectly alongside my money mastery work and I’ll also be supporting my own team with their money mindsets.

P.P.P.S. If your response to this is, ‘Uck! I hate network marketing/multi-level marketing/whatever you want to call it,’ I get you. That’s how I felt for the longest amount of time. I will be sharing more of my network marketing business in the future, but there will still be LOTS of other juicy content (and you might just start to shift your opinion in the meantime).