How to feel better when you believe that good things can’t last

How to feel better when you believe that good things can't lastI’ve been speaking to a lot of clients recently who have an underlying belief that ‘Good things don’t last’.

Whenever things are going well in their lives or businesses, rather than enjoying the good times, they have this niggling fear that it’s all going to slip away at any moment.

I wonder if you can identify with this?

Do you find it challenging to relax and enjoy the times when things are going well for you, because you’re expecting something bad to happen?

Here are some examples of how this belief – Good things don’t last – can show up in your life:

You have a great month financially in your business, but rather than celebrating you immediately start worrying that next month won’t be so good.

You sign-up an ideal new client and fear that they’ll back out before you start working together.

You meet the perfect partner, but instead of enjoying your first few weeks together you’re on the constant look-out for what’s wrong with them (because there must be something, right?)

Not only is it draining to have this underlying fear and doubt, BUT when you’re constantly expecting bad things to happen, you’re likely to manifest the very thing that you fear.

You get more of what you focus on.

So, if you’re worrying that something is going to go wrong, it probably will.

This can lead to a rollercoaster income (with more lows than highs), unreliable clients and friction in your personal relationships.

So, how can you begin to shift this limiting belief and let go of the fear that good things can’t last?

My go-to tool is tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique).  I’ve created a short tapping routine to help you let for of any fears or doubts and expand your capacity to enjoy the good stuff (and attract more of it into your life).

How did you get on?  What kind of shifts or insights did you notice as you were tapping around?

I’d love you to comment below and let me know.

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How to become an energetic match for your ideal clients

How to become an energetic match for your ideal clients.I’m sure you’ve often thought about the kind of clients you want to attract to your business – it’s key to get clear on your ideal clients.

But have you given much thought to what YOU’re like as a client?

This week I got told that I’m the perfect client by a coach that I’m working with at the moment.

And it’s not the first time.  (I don’t say this to brag.)  But I go out of my way to be an ideal client to anyone I choose to work with.

Why?

Because I know how important it is to be an energetic match for exactly the kind of clients you want to attract into your business.

My aim is to attract clients who are committed, engaged, willing to invest in themselves and ready to take action. I’m sure you feel the same?

And, to be honest, in the past there have been many times when I haven’t been that myself.

I’ve bought courses, started off enthusiastically and then tailed off quickly without implementing what I’ve learned.

I’ve invested in group coaching programmes and not turned up for the calls.

I’ve been a lurker in the paid Facebook groups that come as part of programmes I’ve invested in.

And I’ve told myself that I couldn’t afford to invest at a high level, whilst trying to attract high-level clients myself.

And of course, when I’ve done this, not only did I not get the results I wanted from the programmes I invested in, but I also found I was attracting clients who were as unengaged, unwilling to invest and as lacking in action-taking as I was.

This is NOT a happy place to be in your business, I can tell you.

So, a couple of years ago I made a decision to show up as exactly the kind of client I wanted to attract.

  • I took action and implemented what I had learned.
  • I became an active and supportive member of the Facebook communities I had access to.
  • I showed up for coaching calls, even when I didn’t feel like it. And actually, the times I wasn’t feeling like it were the calls that I tended to get most benefit from because they shifted me out of the funk I was in.
  • I invested in myself at a high level and got the specific help I needed.
  • I gave constructive feedback to the people I chose to work with and provided testimonials without prompting.

And in doing this, my business has been transformed.

Not only have I accessed the knowledge and support that I needed to move my business forwards, but I’ve also been able to attract far more of my ideal clients.

By being an ideal client, I also create fantastic connections with the coaches and experts I work with.  This has led to speaking opportunities, referrals, joint ventures and collaborations.

So, if you’re struggling to attract your ideal clients at the moment, if you are getting people who say they can’t afford to work with you or don’t engage in the process, then take some time to look at what kind of client YOU are?

I’m sure you’ve heard the expression, ‘You get back what you put out’ and this is exactly what I mean by making sure you are an energetic match for the kind of clients you want to attract.

Take some now to reflect on what kind of client you are (or have been in the past) and think about ways you can become an energetic match for your ideal clients from now on.

And if you want to discover how to set prices that feel good for you and attract more of your ideal clients, then click here to download my free pricing guide now.

5 Ways to Create Successful Affirmations

5 Ways to Create Successful Abundance AffirmationsAs a Money Coach, I use affirmations a lot and recommend this potent prosperity practice to my Money Mastery clients.

BUT affirmations can sometimes get a bad rep. Maybe you’ve tried to use them in the past, but they just haven’t seemed to make any difference to your financial situation?

Maybe you struggle with knowing the ‘right’ words to say?

Or maybe you can’t believe that simply saying a positive phrase is going to help you to make more money?

The reason why people sometimes struggle with affirmations is that they need to be used in a certain way (otherwise they will have little or no effect).

So, here are the 5 key principles that will ensure your affirmations can’t help but work for you.

1. Use words that excite you.

There are lots of books and content out there that suggest particular affirmations for you to use, so it’s tempting to stick with the exact wording that someone else recommends.

BUT we are all unique.  Words that are compelling and exciting to one person, may leave the next feeling flat or pressured.

When it comes to choosing the wording for your affirmations, be specific and use words that light YOU up.

Try out some different words and phrases and notice those that make you feel expansive and excited.  When you do this, your affirmations will be far more effective.

 2. Be aware of your ‘Yes, buts….’

When you say an affirmation out loud or write it down for the first time, notice if any doubts or ‘Yes, but…’ thoughts come to mind.

For example, if your affirmation is, ‘Money flows to me effortlessly and in abundance’, maybe you’ll get an after-thought like,

‘Yes, but we all know it takes hard work to make money’, or

‘Yes, but who would want to pay me for what I have to offer?’, or

‘Yes, but it could never be really easy’.

When you notice these, ‘Yes, buts….’ rather than trying to push them down or ignore them, do a happy dance.

Eh? Did I just say happy dance?

Yes! Because these ‘Yes, but…’ statements are powerful clues to any limiting beliefs that may have held you back in the past.

Once you have brought them into your awareness (and you’ve done a happy dance!), write them down.  By writing them down, you’re getting them out of your head and down onto paper.

By shining a light on any ‘Yes, buts…’, you’re putting yourself in a position of power and you can begin to shift these limiting beliefs.

3. Ask a question

When you use a statement as an affirmation (for example, ‘I am making £10,000 in my business this month’), your subconscious mind can kick in with those limiting beliefs and ‘Yes, buts’ we were just talking about.

So, you need to be a bit clever with your wording.

Rather than using a simple statement, choose to word your affirmation as a question.

Whenever you ask a question of yourself, your subconscious mind can’t help but go looking for an answer.  So, you will naturally start to notice solutions, opportunities and possibilities.

For example, notice the difference between saying, ‘I am making £10,000 in my business this month’ and ‘I wonder how I am making £10,000 in my business this month?’

It feels much more expansive to ask a question than simply making a statement.  It gives a sense of momentum which carries you forward.

4. Choose to use choose

Using the words, ‘I choose…’ at the beginning of your affirmations super-charges their potency.

Again, the words ‘I choose…’ help to bypass any limiting beliefs or ‘Yes, buts…’.

For example, ‘I choose to create a consistent, growing income’ or ‘I’m choosing to attract money to me with ease and flow’.

When you say, ‘I choose…’ you immediately put yourself in a position of power.  You leave the past behind you and send a message that from this moment forwards , I am choosing to do this!

5. When you’re in a funk, keep it general

This is great tip that I’ve heard many times from Abraham Hicks.  If you’re feeling stressed or anxious about your financial situation, trying to dive in and say, ‘I am a compelling money magnet’ will probably just make you feel worse.

Trying to override heavy emotions with super-specific, positive statements tends to create resistance rather than flow.

SO, if you’re feeling in a funk, use a very general affirmation initially.  For example, ‘I wonder how this could be easy right now?’  or ‘I choose to feel more in flow with the Universe’.

Using a more general affirmation will help to change your state and then you can move on to using more specific wording.

So, that’s the 5 potent principles that will super-charge your affirmations.

And if you want to create your own, supremely effective affirmations, enter your details below to download a copy of my free Abundance Affirmation cheatsheet.

A super-simple technique for when you’re feeling stuck or blocked

A super-simple technique for when you're feeling stuckEver feel like you’re stuck in some area of your life (finances, relationships, health), but you’re not sure exactly what’s holding you back?

What is it that’s preventing you from stepping into your full potential, shining your light as brightly as you surely can and living life the way you truly desire?

The truth is, sometimes we can go round and round in circles trying to figure it out.  Maybe you journal on it, talk to a friend or read a self-help book, but the same ‘stuff’ keeps coming up time and time again.

I get it.

I’ve been there and it’s pretty darn frustrating.

Usually as we’re trying to ‘figure it out’, we’re using our conscious minds, trying to logically reason why on earth we’re feeling so stuck.

But the truth is, if you’re feeling blocked in some way, it’s likely that something is going on subconsciously – and your subconscious mind is not the most rational place.  Believe me, as a hypnotherapist, I’ve become used to the very particular ‘logic’ of the subconscious mind over the years.

The good new is there’s a simple way to bypass your conscious mind and tap into what’s really going on.  It’s a technique I use myself and share with my clients to help uncover and shift blocks of all kinds.

It involves tapping into the inner knowing of your body and it’s a super-quick route to more ease and flow.  Let me share it with you now:

1. Start to focus on the area of your life where you’re feeling stuck at the moment.  Be as specific as you can, thinking about a particular situation, issue or relationship.

2. Notice how you feel in your body as you focus on that particular issue.  What sensations are you experiencing and where?

3. Tune into whichever part of your body you feel drawn to most.  As you focus on the physical sensation you’re feeling there, ask yourself, ‘If this was an emotion, what it be?’  Notice what comes to mind.

4. Stay tuned into that particular part of your body and ask yourself, ‘If this sensation was a colour, what would it be?’  Notice what comes to mind.

5. Now you have a part of your body, a sensation, an emotion and a colour, ask yourself when you first experienced this.  For example, ‘When did I first experience this tight, blue, angry feeling in my throat?’

6. Notice what comes to mind.  It’s very likely that you’ll think of a particular memory and if one doesn’t come, just guess when you first experienced this feeling.  Hint: You cannot get this wrong, whatever comes up will be coming for a reason.  Choose to be open to whatever your subconscious presents to you.

7. Now you have a specific memory, this is GOLD.  Rather than trying to figure it out for yourself, your subconscious has given you the precise piece of the puzzle you need right now.  All you need to do is trust that this is the case.

Focus on the memory that’s come to mind.  Ask yourself, ‘What did I learn here? What did this experience make me believe about myself and the world?’

Take some time to journal on what comes up and begin to reframe it.

For example, when I was doing some personal work recently, a memory came up from when I was a little girl that had made me believe that when I express myself, I make people angry.

As I thought back to the situation that had come to mind, I could see that it wasn’t me that had made people angry, there was much more going on at the time that I simply hadn’t been aware of as a child.

The belief that expressing myself made people angry had been preventing me from being fully myself, in my personal life and business.  But as I worked with this memory, that old belief began to shift.

I would never have got to that memory, if I hadn’t tuned into it via the steps I suggested above.  It’s not a memory that had ever come to mind before.

And that’s why this technique is SO powerful.

When I work with clients, I combine this approach with hypnotherapy or EFT tapping, but you can easily use it for yourself to access information that would otherwise be out of your awareness.

Hint: Awareness is always the first step to change.

Try it out for yourself and see what new insights come to you.

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How can I create an abundant mindset without overspending?

How can I create an abundant mindset without overspending_Recently I received this juicy question from Cat:

We hear a lot about the psychology of abundance and scarcity. But how do you establish an abundant mindset without overspending?  Although the scarcity mindset of “I can’t afford that,” is fear-based, it does stop you spending what you don’t have. 

Is there a risk that with the mindset of “I can afford it. Money flows to me. I am abundant,” a person might get themselves into debt?’

Great question!  And one I’ve done a lot of thinking about over the past few years as a money mindset mentor, so here are my three steps to create an abundant mindset without having to overspend.

1. Appreciate all the ways you’re abundant right now

Creating an abundant mindset is a question of focus.  Whether you earn £10k or £10million a year, we can all slip into a place of ‘there’s not enough’.  (Believe me, even the wealthiest people can still have a scarcity mindset).

When you focus on scarcity, you end up in resistance (i.e. fear, panic, frustration, dissatisfaction) and your point of attraction lowers.

Your aim is to move from resistance into alignment (joy, satisfaction, gratitude, hopefulness) and a sure-fire way to do this is through appreciation.

Rather than focusing on any ways you feel you don’t have enough right now, choose to turn your attention to the many ways in which you already are abundant.

As a personal example, at the moment I’m working with the affirmation, ‘I always make more than enough money to support myself in the most deliciously abundant ways’.  To make sure this affirmation is working for me, I’m constantly choosing to notice the ways I feel deliciously abundant – things like having lunch in my favourite cafe, getting a monthly massage, meeting a friend for coffee, having time to go for my daily walk, booking my upcoming ski-ing holiday.

As you can see, most of these don’t actually cost much money, but they all make me feel abundant.

Don’t forget to appreciate the things you might be taking for granted.  Each month I pay £750 straight into the joint account I share with Mr H to pay for our mortgage, bills and food.  I recently realised that I hadn’t been appreciating this money.  I just lumped it together as ‘household bills’.

So I’ve now started to consciously give thanks for the things this money allows me to experience – my beautiful home, candle-lit baths, fresh water, friendly neighbours, the food that I enjoy, a wonderful therapy room to see my clients, a space for entertaining friends and family,,,, I could go on and on! And as I do, my sense of abundance grows.

Start now: Take some time and write down all the ways you feel abundant right now.  Don’t hold back – write down everything you can think of, be specific and notice how you start to feel more expansive as you do.

2) Power up your language

As a hypnotherapist, I’m super-aware of how the words you use can affect all areas of your life.

Whenever you use the words, ‘I can’t afford it’, you’re sending a message to yourself and out into the Universe that you’re not in control.  You’re undermining your personal power.

Now, I’m not going to ask you to start saying. ‘I can afford it’ about everything when you feel you can’t.  When you use affirmations that don’t feel true for you, you slip back into a place of resistance, making them completely counter-effective.

What I encourage you to do instead is to use statements such as, ‘I’m choosing not to buy that right now’ or ‘This is not a priority for me at the moment’.  Both of these put you back in a position of power.

If there’s something you really want to buy and you truly feel you can’t afford it, then using a question can feel more expansive, for example, ‘I wonder how I could afford that?’ or ‘What are the ways I could create the money to buy ……?’  Whenever you ask a question, your subconscious mind will go looking for an answer and ideas will begin to flow to you.

‘I can’t afford it’ immediately closes you down.  ‘I wonder how I could afford it?’ opens you up.

Start now: Over the next week, ban yourself from saying ‘I can’t afford it’.  Choose to use more empowering statements or questions and notice how you feel different.

3) Be mindful of your feelings towards debt

In her question, Cat asked whether trying to create an abundant mindset could lead to overspending and getting into debt.  I think there’s generally a lot of misunderstanding about what an ‘abundant mindset’ really is.

Some abundance coaches might encourage you to ‘Just trust that the money will show up’ or say that if you hold onto money, it shows you have a scarcity mindset.

I don’t agree with that.

If you’re spending money and getting into debt to prove you’ve got an abundant mindset, telling yourself that you ‘trust there’s always enough’ when deep-down you’re feeling petrified, then I’m afraid you’re heading for down-town resistance and your chances of attracting more into your life are pretty much zilch.

I know this might sound harsh, but believe me, I’ve been there my friend and it’s NOT the way to go.

Although we use the words, ‘abundant mindset’, true abundance is all about how you FEEL.

And the truth is, many of us feel pretty mixed-up about debt. On one hand, we’re told it’s bad and on the other, we’re offered credit left, right and centre and made to feel it’s obligatory to get a huge mortgage in order to feel like a proper ‘grown-up’

Debt is not inherently bad and it’s not inherently good.  Debt just IS.

When you remove the emotion around debt, you’re free to make empowered decisions.

Now, I’m certainly not saying that it’s a great idea to get into debt so you can buy whatever you want.

BUT if something feels like a priority for you, if you feel that you’ll get a return on your investment (and that can be financially, emotionally, spiritually, energetically…) AND you know you can manage the repayments, then paying for it on credit may be an option for you.

When you’re making a choice about whether to borrow money to pay for something, notice how you feel about it.  Whatever you’re telling yourself consciously, your emotions will always let you know whether you’re closer to resistance or alignment.

Start now: Take some time to journal on your current feelings and beliefs around debt.  Do you see ‘debt’ as inherently bad?  What have your personal experiences been around debt? Have they left you feeling disempowered?  Empty all of your thoughts and feelings down onto the page.  Once you’ve done that, you’ll feel clearer moving forwards and able to make more empowered choices.

So, that’s my answer to Cat’s question- it is possible to create an abundant mindset without overspending.  You just need to make a few shifts along the way.

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The 20 must-read books that will super-charge your wealth-creating potential in 2016

The 20 must-read books that will super-charge your wealth-creating potential in 2016Until recently I ran The Wealth Consciousness Bookclub on Facebook – an online space where women could come together and focus on a different abundance-enhancing book each month.

At the beginning of this year, I made the decision to close the group after as my attention moves to writing my own book in 2016.   (Watch out for ‘Heal Your Inner Good Girl’ when it’s published in the Summer!)

All-in-all we read 14 mind-expanding books in The Wealth Consciousness Bookclub and there are some gems that I never got around to sharing.  So, as I close this special online space, I wanted to share a list of the 20 must-read books that will give you wealth-creating super-powers this year.

This is the only reading list you’ll ever need to create a richer life.

In no particular order, here we go!

1) The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist
Thought-provoking insights into the essence of prosperity. Lynne Twist demonstrates how we can replace feelings of scarcity, guilt, and burden with experiences of sufficiency, freedom, and purpose.

2) The Life Changing Magic of Tidying by Marie Kondo
A super-simple, effective way to banish clutter FOREVER. Clear out the old to make space for the new to flow in!

3) Overcoming Underearning by Barbara Stanny
5 steps to letting go of self-sabotage and creating the richer life you deserve (because you really do!)

4) The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity by Catherine Ponder
A compact set of simple universal laws for assuring success. This book is truly magical!

5) The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
6 habits that will transform your life before 8am. Learn how to wake up each day with energy, motivation and focus.

6) The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
Conquer your hidden fears and take your life to the next level. This book is just brilliant! Read it and eliminate the barriers to success.

7) The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D Wattles
A classic guide to creating wealth through the Law of Attraction.

8) The Prosperous Heart by Julia Cameron
A twelve-week programme for using practical financial tools, in partnership with your creative heart and soul, to guide you to prosperity in all areas of your life. If you loved The Artist’s Way, you’ll LOVE this.

9) The Wealth Chef by Ann Wilson
A simple, step-by-step guide to creating true financial freedom.

10) Ask and it is Given by Esther & Jerry Hicks
Learn how to manifest your desires so that you’re living the joyous and fulfilling life you deserve. Contains transformational processes that will help you go with the positive flow of life.

11) Money. A Love Story by Kate Northrup
Create a new, loving relationship with money. Kate presents a guide to untangling any financial woes, so you can create the life you truly want.

12) The Law of Divine Compensation by Marianne Williamson
Discover the spiritual principles that will help you overcome financial stress and unleash the divine power of abundance.

13) Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Ecker
Discover the secrets of the truly wealthy, so you can master the inner game of wealth.

14) Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
A true classic! Napoleon Hill researched more than forty millionaires to find out what made them the people that they were. In this book he imparts that knowledge to you, so you can follow their lead.

15) Get Rich Lucky Bitch by Denise Duffield-Thomas
Release your money blocks and learn how to live a first-class life with the fabulous, down-to-earth Denise Duffield-Thomas.

16) The Desire Map by Danielle Laporte
Turns the process of goal-setting on its head so you can create goals with SOUL and forge substantial life changes.

17) I Can Make You Rich by Paul McKenna
Discover proven psychological techniques to help you install a rich mindset inside yourself.

18) Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert T Kiyosaki
Learn what the rich teach their kids about money, that the poor and middle-class do not. Kiyosaki explodes money myths left, right and centre in this fascinating book.

19) Tapping Into Wealth by Margaret M Lynch
Learn how to use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) to help you clear the path to making more money.

20) Money. Master the Game by Tony Robbins
A 7-step blueprint to creating financial freedom. If you’re ready to take your financial knowledge further, then this book is for you.

So, there you have it – the 20 books that will give you wealth-creating super-powers!  Remember though, you need to IMPLEMENT and TAKE ACTION to see the results you desire.

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Danger! Danger! Are you setting good girl goals?

Danger! Danger!Are you setting good girl goals_Can I tell you a secret? I have a love-hate relationship with goals.

As a coach and hypnotherapist, I know they’re vital to create clarity, focus and motivation.

BUT they can also feel like a pressure and if you don’t achieve the goals you set for yourself, you can end up feeling like a big, ol’ failure.

So, how can you set goals that inspire rather than make you feel like crap?

The answer is not to fall into the trap of setting what I call ‘good girl goals’.

And what do I mean by ‘good girl goals’?

Well these are goals that you feel you ‘should’ be achieving. They come from your Inner Good Girl – the  part of you that desperately wants to fit in, please others, be seen as doing well and not put her head above the parapet.

How do you know if you’re setting good girl goals?

There are some tell-tale signs to look out for:

  • When you think about your goal, you feel deflated rather than excited.
  • When you consider your ‘Why?’ for setting the goal, the answer is likely to include a ‘should’, ‘must’ or ‘ought to’. I really should be earning that much in my business by now. I ought to be healthier. I must blog more often because everyone else says it’s important.
  • When you focus on how it will be when you achieve your goal, it doesn’t feel like it will add much to your life.
  • The motivation for setting the goal came from comparing yourself to someone else.
  • You’re finding it challenging to start taking action towards your goal.
  • If you achieve a good girl goal, you feel flat rather than amazing. (Anti-climax ahoy!)

Moving towards a good girl goal is a darnright struggle and no fun at all.

When I work with my clients, I help them to tune into their ‘Unbounded Self’ goals – goals that come from a place of expansiveness and possibility, rather than conditioning and limitation.

Although Unbounded Self goals can be challenging (because they tend to be super-juicy), moving towards them is a much more joyful experience.

Here’s a fail-safe way to check whether you’ve set a good girl goal:

1. Pick a specific goal that you’re working towards at the moment.

2. Say the goal to yourself, either out loud or silently in your mind, and notice how you feel in your body. What physical sensations do you feel as you focus on your goal?

3. Do these physical sensations feel expansive or constricting?

You’ll probably be able to tell this straight away, as I’m pretty sure you’re tuned into what feels great and what feels blah. If you’re not sure, focus on something you know you feel good about and notice how that feels in your body, then focus on something you feel icky about and notice how that feels. You can then compare these sensations to those you experience when you think about your goal.

For me, when I think about an Unbounded Self goal, I get an expansive, tug forward from my belly. When I focus on a good girl goal, I get a constricted, feeling in my belly, like it’s shrinking in on itself. You can tell that my belly is my emotional compass, can’t you?

If you find that you’ve set yourself a good girl goal, you can decide whether you want to shift it so it feels more unbound, OR let it go completely.

You’re back in the driving seat!

Btw  It’s fine to feel scared when you’re thinking about a particular goal.  Fear is completely normal when you’re moving out of your comfort zone.  Again you can check in with your body to see whether it’s an expansive, scary-but-good kinda fear or a constrictive, I’m-only-doing-this-because-I-feel-I-should fear.

Moving away from good girl goals and towards unbounded self goals is key to creating the life and business you truly desire.

If you’re ready to create a deliciously abundant life and business and would like to explore how I can help you to do this, let’s talk. Click here to access my diary and book in for a complimentary 30-minute Clarity Call.

Here’s to living an unbound life!

Nicola x

My top 3 end-of-year resources and planners

My top 3 end-of-year resources and plannersThe other day a client asked me what tools or planners I use at the end of the year and I thought it would be helpful to share my recommendations with y’all.

I love the energy at this time of year (as I write it’s the 16th December and my Christmas tree lights are a’twinkling).  For me, it’s time to pause, reflect on the last 12 months and set some compelling intentions for the year ahead.

I’ve used various resources to help me do this in the past and these are my top 3 end-of-year power tools (not the electric drill kind you understand, the magically, miraculous, manifesting kind).

1) Leonie Dawson’s Create Your Shining Year Workbooks

To be completely transparent, I’m not using Leonie Dawson’s sh-amazing Life and Biz Leonie Workbookworkbooks this year, BUT I’ve used them for each of the past three years and they have served me extremely well.

What I particularly love about Leonie’s planners is the powerful way she combines reviewing the past year with setting goals for the next.  For me, reflecting on the past twelve months is just as important (if not more so) than planning for the next, so I adore that Leonie guides us so skillfully through this process.

I also love that this year, she’s offering separate workbooks for both Life and Business (previously they were combined), so you can choose to buy either or both.  Fab-u-liscious!

The only reason I’m not using these workbooks this year is that after three years of using them, I can pretty much take myself through the same process.  But if you’re looking for something to lead you through every aspect of reviewing, reflecting, planning and goal-setting for 2016, then these little beauties are for you.

Click here to discover more.

2) Danielle Laporte’s Desire Map

The Desire MapI’ve written about ‘The Desire Map‘ before on the blog and I make no apology for coming back to it again, because quite frankly, this book rocks my world.

Rather than the traditional process of goal-setting, Danielle encourages you to choose Core Desired Feelings which will guide you to set intentions that light you up and feel 100% aligned – goals with soul!

I first worked through The Desire Map process at the end of 2014 and my prime Core Desired Feeling was ‘Unbound’.  This had such a huge impact on my year in 2015 (I wrote about it here) that working through The Desire Map is now firmly established as my non-negotiable end-of-year ritual.

I’ve just chosen a new set of Core Desired Feelings for 2016 – Luminous, Fierce, Deeply Connected and Joy – and I can’t tell you how expansive and full of possibility I feel when I focus on those words.

The Desire Map is for you if you’re tired with traditional goal-setting and yearn for a more soulful process.

Click here for a direct link to ‘The Desire Map’ book and here for Danielle’s website.

3) Amy Palko’s Word Goddess Readings

This has been a new discover for me this year and I’m in love already.

Amy has been on my radar for a while but I’ve never bought one of her Goddess Readings before.

This year I saw one of my friends recommending them on Facebook and instinctively knew that this would be a wonderful addition to my end-of-year rituals.

Amy offers these intuitive readings designed to hook you up with your Goddess for the coming year and also help choose a word as your touchstone, your mantra for the year.

I ordered one for myself and one for my sister as a gift.  When I got mine, I was delighted to see that Durga had stepped forward to be my Goddess for 2016 (she’s been showing up for me in lots of different ways over the past few months and I’m looking forward to embracing her focus and fierce-ness in 2016).

When my sister received hers, she immediately rang me to ask if I’d given Amy any details about her (I hadn’t).  She couldn’t believe that her reading was SO in tune with where she’s at right now and what she wants to experience more of in 2016.

Quite simply, Amy’s Word Goddess Readings are magical!

Click here to discover more (the readings are available until 31st January).

So, there you have it, my top 3 resources as we transition from one year to another.

Here’s to a wonder-full 2016!

Nicola x

7 Powerful Life Lessons from 2015

7 Powerful Life Lessons from 2015As we come to the end of 2015, it’s helpful (and healing) to look back and reflect on how this year has been – and in particular to acknowledge our learnings.

For me this year has been far more transformational than I could ever have imagined (and often uncomfortably so!) In this blog post I’m sharing some BIG lessons that have come through for me during the year, as well as some personal decisions that have impacted on my life in a positive way.

Please note, this is an unashamedly long blog-post, but worth it – I promise!

Lesson No 1 – The gold in the darkness

This year did not go as planned for me at all. After a great start to 2015, by the end of the summer things began to go off track.

  • Business dried up. Even my hypnotherapy practice was struggling and this had always provided a steady income for me.
  • I started to feel as low as I’d done for many years – totally lacking in inspiration and energy.
  • One family challenge after another seemed to come up – including serious health issues.

All of this rocked me and made me question the path I was on.

But even at the darkest of times this year, I tried to hold onto the fact it was all happening for a reason (even though this was super-tough at times).

In the last few months of 2015, I’ve done some profound inner work which I probably would have skirted around for years if everything had been ticking along nicely.

The most challenging of times has truly brought me the greatest of rewards – getting to know and embracing my full self, giving myself the space to see the direction I want to move in and letting go of what wasn’t serving me.

In the darkness we’re forced to recognise and draw on our inner treasures and that’s exactly what’s happened for me over the last few months of 2015.

That’s why I can honestly say that this year has been one of the most transformational I’ve experienced in recent years (which is quite something, as my work is all about transformation).

Over to you: Take some time to reflect on any challenges you’ve experienced this year. What did you learn? Where did they lead you? What was the gold in your darkness?

And if you’re ready to do some super-powerful inner work in the first 3 months of 2016, click here for an invitation to Your Heroine’s Journey.

Lesson No 2 – Choosing a word for the year is more powerful than you imagine

In the past I’d always thought that choosing a word for the year was fun to do, but not hugely meaningful. How wrong I was!

My word for the year has been UNBOUND. I chose this as one of my core desired feelings at UNBOUNDthe end of 2014 when working through ‘The Desire Map‘ by Danielle Laporte (which is highly recommended btw).

Early this year I created this image to sum up what unbound means to me.

I never imagined the huge impact this word would have on me personally and in my business.

It was a big part of the inspiration for me to write my book ‘Heal Your Inner Good Girl’ which is about reconnecting with your Unbounded Self (look out for it in the Spring of 2016!).

When I came up with the concept, I was excited about getting to know my Unbounded Self. After all, this is what my year was all about – letting go of limitations and embracing myself fully.

But when I created a meditation designed to help me connect with my Unbounded Self, I was shocked to discover what she was like.

My Unbounded Self was a dark, powerful, elemental force. At first I couldn’t see her clearly – she was like a whirling energy that felt out of control.

It was actually uncomfortable for me to spend time in her presence. (I’d actually been much more comfortable during the meditation I created to connect with my inner good girl!)

I ended the Unbounded Self meditation sensing that she was full of rage which left me totally confused, until I recognised that she represented the full expression of me – including the heavier, darker emotions that I’d often suppressed in the past.

Of course she was full of rage – I’d rarely allowed myself to express anger. As a 9 on the enneagram, I pretty much do anything I can to avoid conflict. But my Unbounded Self was calling me to acknowledge my rage, my anger, my frustration and to channel this powerful energy.

As I wrote about this for my book, I realised that many women would feel the same. Many of us were told that being angry wasn’t ‘nice’- the message being, we should put up and shut up.

But what happens to all of that anger and rage?

It’s there, bubbling away, and unless we find a way to express it, our anger can become toxic.

So by choosing ‘unbound’ as my word for the year, I’ve connected with a part of myself I’d disowned and in doing that I feel more powerful, more complete, more whole. And it’s taken me in a new direction in the work I’m focusing on with my clients – helping women to express and be their full, unbounded selves.

Over to you: If you haven’t already, choose a word that describes how you want to feel in 2016. Know that it will impact on you in ways you can’t yet imagine.

Lesson No 3 – Get the freakin’ full body massage

Having a monthly massage has been a non-negotiable self-care ritual for me since I did my counselling training a few years ago.

I know I can hold emotional and psychological tension in my body, particularly my shoulders, and my monthly massage makes sure it doesn’t get a chance to build up.

Before this year I’d always opted to have a back, neck and shoulder massage. I knew these were the areas I tended to hold tension and I also hated to have my legs massaged – in fact they always felt so tender and sensitive that I literally wanted to kick any massage therapist who came near them!

But I knew that the areas we resist being pummelled are probably the areas where we need it most (the same goes for inner work – the gold is ALWAYS in the places we don’t want to look).

Our legs are all about the ability to move forward and by neglecting them, I was preventing myself from moving forward freely.

So this year I bit the bullet and told my massage therapist, Dannie, that I was going to try a full body massage. I breathed deeply as she massaged my legs and affirmed to myself, ‘I’m willing to move forward’.

And do you know what? It wasn’t as bad as I expected. In fact, it felt amazing for my whole body to benefit from a massage.

I couldn’t believe that I’d been having half a massage for so long.

Even though it’s painful sometimes when Dannie gets to my legs, I know I’m enjoying a much fuller experience.

Over to you: What are you feeling resistance to at the moment?  Can you find a way to be bold and go there?  How can you make self-care more of a priority in 2016?  Where in your life would you benefit from going all in?  Don’t be satisfied with half measures

Lesson No 4 – Good girl goals don’t work

One of the revelations I’ve had this year is that my Inner Good Girl has been having a far bigger impact on me than I’d previously imagined.

I always knew I had a part of me that wanted me to stay quiet and small, but as I’ve been working on my book I’ve realised that my Inner Good Girl was much more complex than that.

As well as holding me back, she was very often responsible for pushing me forwards.

My Inner Good Girl is the part of me that wants to keep up with others and be seen as successful. And this means she is BIG on goals.

The problem is that the goals my Inner Good Girl pushes me to move towards are very often out of alignment with my true desires. This means it’s blooming hard work to build up the momentum to achieve them.

An example: Earlier this year I thought I’d had a brilliant idea when I decided to set a goal for myself to reach financial freedom by my 45th birthday, at the end of 2016. The inspiration came to me suddenly and initially I was really excited by it.

I’m a quick action-taker so I recorded a video stating my goal and asked others to join me. I knew that by making a public declaration, I’d be more committed to the outcome.

All went well at first – lots of people were interested and wanted to join me. I put a strategy in place and even ran a free financial freedom challenge.

But as I moved into the latter part of the year, I just couldn’t get excited about my financial freedom goal any more. In fact, the very idea of working towards it felt draining.

It was then I realised that this was a Good Girl Goal – a goal I’d set for myself because it seemed ‘right’. It was a clear, definite goal, one that I knew others would be interested in AND it would be a huge achievement when I reached it. Plus it would make me look super-successful.

All the things that my Inner Good Girl valued.

But as I stripped it back, I realised that I’m not actually that driven by the idea of financial freedom.

Of course, it would be nice to have (I mean, who wouldn’t want to be financially free?), but ‘nice to have’ just isn’t compelling enough for me.

Good Girl Goals don’t cut it. They drain your energy, rather than inspire you. They feel like a chore, rather than a joy. They constrict, rather than expand.

So, I decided to let my financial freedom goal go. I’ve set my intention and who knows, maybe I will be financially free by the end of 2016? But I’m not going to strive for it.

Over to you: Check in with any goals you’ve already made for 2016 – do they feel like Good Girl Goals? Are they about looking good, rather than feeling amazing? If so, ask yourself, ‘What do I really want?’ and set some new Unbounded Self intentions.

Lesson No 5 –  You’re often far closer to your dreams than you imagine

This follows on from lesson number 4 as when I started to reflect on my financial freedom goal, I realised that I already had much of what I was striving for.

You know when you do those ‘ideal day’ exercises? You imagine what your ideal day would be like and write down exactly what you would do, who you’d spend time with, where you’d be.

I’ve done that exercise countless times and even included it as part of my financial freedom challenge.

When I write about my ideal day, it’s always pretty much the same – I’m living by the sea with Mr H. I get up each day, do some yoga, write, see a one-to-one client in my gorgeous therapy room, go for a walk by the sea, have lunch with a friend and then cook dinner for Mr H and I.

It’s not too ‘out there’, is it? But this is what would make me happy. This is my ideal day.

And a couple of months ago, as I was out for a walk on Southampton Common I realised that actually I was pretty much living my ideal life right now.

I don’t live right on the sea, but I do live on the south coast within easy access to the beach. And apart from that, I can tick every single box on my ideal day checklist.

I couldn’t believe I’d never seen this before. It was only when I allowed myself to slow down, do less and shift my priorities that I realised I pretty much have everything I wanted right now.

No waiting.

No striving.

No trying.

My. Ideal. Life.

I simply allowed myself to appreciate all that I have already. Something I knew and was teaching to others, but wasn’t fully doing myself.

And I guess it’s not just me that this is the case for.

Over to you: When you think about your ideal day, how much of it have you actually got access to already? Rather than focusing on how far away your dreams seem, choose to notice how close they are to you.

Lesson No 6 –  Choosing to go grey

This was part of my commitment to being ‘unbound’ in 2015. I decided to stop dying my hair and allow my natural grey to come through.

I got my first grey hairs when I was in my mid-teens and as I had dark brown hair, I noticed them immediately.

I only had a couple at first, but by my late twenties, they were much more noticeable and I started to dye my hair.

After 15 years of doing this every few weeks, I was completely fed up with it. I hated when my grey roots started to come through and was really conscious of them.

Mr H has been grey for years and encouraged me to follow suit. And I told myself that maybe when I was 50, I’d allow my grey to come through. (Why 50? I really don’t know!)

But was as I got towards the end of 2014, I asked myself, ‘Why not now?’ I had a strong desire to be completely me, truly authentic and how could I be that if I was slapping on dye every four weeks?

I talked to my hairdresser and he said that the grey would suit my skin colour and as I still had some dark hairs, it would be gradual process. So I decided to go for it.

I can’t tell you how liberating it was to stop dying my hair. But it was scary too as more and more grey came through.

For the first time in my life, I was going to have fair hair. I imagined that I’d look completely different. Would my clothes suit me, or would I have to get a new wardrobe?

But to be honest, over a year on from the last time I dyed my hair, the grey is still not completely through. I still have a fair amount of dark hair and because it’s been such a gradual process, I don’t notice the difference too much (although lots of other people have commented on it, mostly complimentary!)

But when I pull my hair back and see the grey underneath, sometimes I wobble as I see myself as an older woman.

Being young has always been part of my identity. People have often commented that I look young for my age and as I don’t have children, I’ve never moved into the ‘mother’ phase of my life.

So now it feels like I’m making a huge leap from young girl to older woman, from maiden towards crone, jarring my sense of identity.

And then I remember the wisdom I’ve gathered over the years through experience, the way I’m able to express myself more fully and know myself more completely and I lean into the joy of being a wiser, wilder older woman.

It’s exciting!

And it’s such a relief to be more fully me, to show the true me, instead of hiding behind hair dye.

Over to you: Where are you hiding a part of yourself? Where are you clinging on to an old identity that no longer serves you? What change could you make that you would allow you to be more you?

Lesson No 7 – Knowing it’s okay to be inconsistent

This has been a BIG lesson for me this year.

As a recovering good girl, I like to do things right and I’ve always been told that consistency is key in all parts of life, particularly in business.

That’s one of the reasons I always sent weekly newsletters to my community – every Wednesday, regular as clockwork. I blogged pretty much every week and posted consistently on social media.

Most of the time this felt good. Like you, I’m a creative and can always find something to write about and share.

But sometimes, I really didn’t feel like writing. Even when I didn’t have anything compelling to share, I felt I had to go ahead and do it anyway. It was like I was this content-producing machine that couldn’t stop. But of course, I’m not a machine. I’m a woman, which means I operate in a cyclic rather than linear way.

My very nature means that I’m inconsistent (this is one of the key learnings I took from Lisa Lister’s awesome book, ‘Code Red‘). So trying to fit into a consistent structure just wasn’t working for me. In fact, this year I saw it was draining me more than I realised.

Towards the end of the summer when I started to feel low and burned out, I knew that something had to change. As I took time to rest and recover, I stepped back from regular blogging. I let go of the need to send my newsletter every week. And I spent less time on social media.

I decided to write to my community when I felt inspired to.

And guess what? The world didn’t stop.

In fact, I received more interest in what I had to say than ever before.

I have far more time for myself.

And, rather than beating myself up for being inconsistent (which in the past I equated with being lazy), I now listen to my needs and inspirations, rather than over-riding them.

It feels SO good.

Over to you: What are you doing in your life and your business because you feel you ‘should’? What are you aching to let go of? How would it be if you did just that? Lean into that feeling.

So, that’s the 7 life lessons that have come through for me in 2015 (actually as I was writing, I realised there were far more than 7, but once I got to 3000 words, I thought that was enough for now!)

I invite you to comment below with a life lesson you’ve learned this year – I’d love to hear what’s come through for you.

And I wish you a joy-filled and abundant 2016.

Nicola x

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The 5 blind spots that make you feel the Law of Attraction isn’t working for you

The 5 blind spots that are making you feel the Law of Attraction isn't working for youThe Law of Attraction – the concept seems SO simple eh?

You get back what you put out. Like attracts like.

So, all you need to do is focus on what you want and BINGO.

But if you’re reading this, then I suspect you’ve had some challenges with the Law of Attraction.

Maybe you’ve been saying your affirmations, creating vision boards and trying to attract more money, love and opportunities into your life, but it just isn’t happening?

Or (even more frustratingly!) you’ve experienced those tantalising times when the Law of Attraction has seemed to be working like a dream. ‘I’ve finally cracked it!’, you think. And then your magnetic capabilities seem to falter again.

I get it!

I’ve certainly had my share of ups and downs with the Law of Attraction. And through my personal experience and work as a hypnotherapist and abundance coach, I’ve discovered some sneaky blind spots that we can sometimes overlook.

And the first thing you need to know is that the Law of Attraction is always working for you. Always.

This is a Universal Law we’re talking about here. So there’s no way it can be working like a charm one day and then go walkabout the next.

The Law of Attraction is always in action.

So you can rest assured that you have attracted everything you have in your life right now. Everything.

If your life isn’t quite (or at all) the way you want it, then I understand if that’s a sobering thought for you.

BUT this fact can also be incredibly empowering. Because it means that you are 100% in control of what you attract into your life. You my friend are a super-powerful creator!

So, let’s move onto those blind spots and get you creating the life you desire (and deserve).

Here are the top reasons why you might feel like the Law of Attraction isn’t working for you right now.

1) You’re not paying attention

Can I ask you a question – are you really aware of what you’re attracting right now?

Because in my experience often we overlook much of the good stuff we’ve already created in our lives. Once the initial excitement of having something new wears off (whether it’s a relationship, a higher income, a top-of-the-range car), we take it for granted.

When that happens, we move our attention to the next thing on the list of our desires, what we don’t have right now.

And although it’s a wonderful thing to be expanding our experience and creating more in our lives, it’s counter-productive when we find ourselves in a place of resistance and dissatisfaction.

My ‘aha!’ moment: When I started actively focusing on creating more abundance in my life, I always had my eyes firmly on the prize.  I totally neglected the fact that I already had a whole heap of glorious-ness in my life – a wonderful relationship, a beautiful house, financial security and a business I loved.

Once I woke up to fact that I had created some pretty cool stuff already, I shifted my point of attraction and opened up the flow so even more abundance could come my way.

Hint: Start from a place of appreciation about what you already have – the good stuff you’ve already attracted.

Change Your Point of Attraction: Take 15 minutes and write down all the good stuff you have in your life right now. Go to town and write down everything (big or small) you can think of. Notice how your energy starts to shift as you do this and know you’re raising your vibration!

2) You’re trying too hard

Many of us are conditioned to believe that the good stuff in life doesn’t come easily.

Maybe you were told things like, ‘Money doesn’t grow on trees’, or ‘Wealth doesn’t come without sacrifice’ when you were growing up?

So, you’re operating under the belief that you have to put your nose to the grindstone and work bloomin’ hard to get what you want.

But when you’ve got your head down, working every hour you can, and really trying to bring your desires into reality, you’re not going to be feeling great.

Trying, striving and pushing generally equates with stress, exhaustion and frustration. And those aren’t the kind of high-vibe feelings that super-charge your Universal attractiveness.

It’s a conundrum – you’re told you have to work hard to get what you want, but working too hard can lower your vibration making it more difficult to attract your desires.

Hint: Although it feels counter-intuitive, you’ll often get better results by doing less.  (See my blog post on Radical Non-Action for more on this.)

My ‘aha!’ moment: For the past few years I’ve worked with the affirmation, ‘Money flows to me effortlessly and in abundance’. At times it seemed to really work for me, but not always and I would end up feeling confused about my elusive wealth-creating abilities.

It was only earlier this year when I realised that the times when my income dried up were those times when I slipped into working too hard – the times when I found myself pushing and striving for success.

These were the times when I was totally going against my newly-created belief that money flows to me effortlessly.

As soon as I eased up on my workload and stopped trying, my flow of income opened up again.

Change Your Point of Attraction: Where are you trying too hard in your life right now? Whether it’s in your business, your love-life or your health, allow yourself to let go and do less. Journal on this question – ‘What would it be like if my desires came to me surprisingly easily?’

3) You’re clinging on to expectations

So, you know what you want to create in your life, you’ve even carefully crafted a dreamboard with beautiful images of your desires and you are SO ready for it all to flow to you, BUT are your expectations getting in the way?

Those pesky expectations can mess with the Law of Attraction in a two different ways.

Firstly, they might not let you believe that you can ever attract what it is you desire. Your expectations may be firmly based on what you’ve experienced in the past and when you start to think about creating anything different in your life, they shut you down with ‘Are you crazy? That’s just not going to happen.’

If that feels like it’s the case for you, blind-spot number 5 will help you out.

Secondly, you may have rigid expectations about how your desires are going to come to you.

Perhaps you’re sure that the only way you can create a higher income is to get a new job, or sell a certain number of a particular product to your clients?

Maybe you’re certain that the only way you can meet the partner of your dreams is via online dating?

Hint: The problem with set expectations is that you can end up closing the door on any other way of your desires flowing to you. You become blind to other opportunities.

My ‘aha!’ moment: When I was in my mid to late-thirties I spent years internet dating, looking for my perfect partner. To be honest, it wasn’t much fun and I generally ended up pretty depressed after yet another date with someone who in no way floated my boat.

Then in 2009 during a reiki workshop, my teacher asked us all to set intentions. So I set an intention to meet my ideal man. I wrote it on a piece of paper and put it into our magical, intention-setting box. Very soon afterwards, I totally gave up on dating. I was tired of the search and decided that I’d be happy to be on my own.

It was only after I let go of my expectations about how (or whether!) I’d meet a man, that the future Mr H messaged me on Facebook. We’d been at school together and hadn’t seen each other for 20 years, so him getting in touch was totally out of the blue. Six years later, we’re very happily married.  Thank you very much Universe!

Change Your Point of Attraction: Where have you closed the door on your desires by having rigid expectations? Ask yourself the question, ‘I wonder how many different ways this could come to me?’ Write down one specific thing you want to manifest in your life, put it somewhere safe, then forget about it. Go about your life with a sense of gratitude for what you already have and be open to the opportunities that flow your way. Know that your desire is coming to you.

4) You’re not open to receive

Being closed off to receive is something I see all the time and it can seriously limit your ability to use the Law of Attraction effectively.

And this ties in closely with point number 3 because often having set expectations stops us from being open to receive our desires in surprising and serendipitous ways.

Know this – the Universe is always trying to send you what you want. But very often, you’re batting it’s efforts away.

The ideal client who really wants to work with you? She comes to your website but it’s not immediately clear how she can work with you, so she goes elsewhere.

The opportunity that’s going to move your business to the next level? It’s that call that you’ve been putting off making.

Your dream partner? It could just be that guy who keeps trying to make conversation with you in the coffee shop but you always feel too busy to stop.

My ‘aha!’ moment: Actually with this point, it’s more a series of aha moments for me! I’m constantly noticing areas where I’ve been closed off to receiving – the times I don’t make a clear offer to prospective clients, the positive feedback I bat away with ‘Oh, it was nothing’ and the projects I procrastinate on, even though I know they’re income-generating opportunities. Building your receiving muscle is a continual process and it’s all good learning.

Change Your Point of Attraction: Over the next 24 hours set your intention to be open to receiving. Graciously accept compliments and positive feedback, ask for any help or support you need, say ‘yes’ to opportunities and invitations, make it clear how people can work with you. Allow the Universe to give you the good stuff!

5) Your ‘stuff’ is blocking the signal

This is probably the most important blind-spot I’m talking about here.

Although on the surface you might be super-clear on what you want to attract into your life, if you don’t truly believe you can create your desires then the Law of Attraction is going to feel pretty darn frustrating for you.

This is where it can get complicated. Because very often we’re not aware of our unconscious programming – the beliefs that were created when we were very young.

So you set your sights on what you want, but your underlying beliefs are sending out a completely different signal.

You want to create a six-figure business, but deep down you believe that no-one will like you if you’re wealthy.

You want to find your ideal partner, but deep down you think you’re unloveable.

You want to publish a best-selling book, but deep down you believe that you’re not good enough and no-one would really want to hear what you have to say.

All of these mixed signals lead to self-sabotage and frustration, as time and time again we end up actually repelling our desires.

This is the work I specialise in – using hypnotherapy and emotional freedom technique to help my clients uncover and shift their unconscious limiting beliefs. Basically I help people to clear out the stuff that’s getting in the way of them creating the life they want.

My ‘aha!’ moment: One of the beliefs I’ve worked with as I’ve grown my business is, ‘People won’t like me if I’m successful’. For a long time this stopped me from putting my head above the parapet.  It kept me and my business small and quiet.

Once I identified this belief and started working on it, I realised that people liking me and being successful were not mutually exclusive.  I created new, more resourceful beliefs which allowed my business to flourish.

Change Your Point of Attraction: Earlier this year I created a tapping routine using EFT specifically designed to help you release any limiting money beliefs.  Click here to access it and clear the stuff that’s stopping you from attracting the wealth you desire (and deserve!)

So, that’s the five main blind spots that can make you feel like the Law of Attraction is not working for you.  Which one resonates with you most?  Don’t forget  to comment below and let me know.

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