Episode 9 with Brenda Gabriel (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode, I’m speaking with the wonderful Brenda Gabriel.

After being run off her bike in 2012, Brenda had an epiphany. Then a civil servant, she was shaken to her core and questioned whether she would have been happy with her obituary had her life ended that day. The answer to that question was a resounding ‘No’.

The opportunity for redundancy arose a short while later and at 8 months pregnant Brenda took a leap into the unknown. Discovering a flair for marketing and PR was a turing point and thus, Brenda Gabriel Biz Gamechanger was born. Honing her craft as publicist, copywriter, social media coach and blogger, Brenda, now a mum of three is on a mission to make her difference in the world by working with other disruptors to do the same.

During our conversation she talks about the expectation to be a ‘good girl’ when she was growing up and how this impacted on her up until very recently. I love the energy that Brenda brings to her work and she has definitely let go of her inner good girl to express her unbound, fierce, passionate self.

You can find out more about Brenda and her work at: http://brendagabriel.co.uk/

Episode 8 with Katherine Baldwin (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with the inspirational Katherine Baldwin. Katherine is a writer, speaker and intuitive dating and relationships coach.

She has been writing professionally for 20+ years, as a journalist and a blogger, and is now writing a memoir, exploring her journey from 40 to 45 as she transformed her life, her work and her relationships and went from being a single, work-obsessed adrenaline-junky to a women who’s in love, living by the sea and doing work that’s aligned with her authentic self.

Katherine now helps other women heal their relationships with themselves and others and change their patterns so they can live authentic, wholehearted lives and find healthy, loving relationships.

I first met Katherine ten years ago when we were both on a personal development holiday in Greece. It seems that we were both right at the beginning of a huge journey of self-discovery at the time. Since then we’ve both left comfortable, secure jobs to start our own businesses. During our conversation I loved talking with Katherine about her decision to make the leap from her high-profile role and her ongoing battle with perfectionism.

Find out more about Katherine and her work at: http://www.katherinebaldwin.com

Episode 7 – with Marelda Rodrigures (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with Marelda Rodrigues. Marelda is a health coach, author, massage therapist and life and culinary enthusiast.

Her journey in wellness is multicultural and encompasses challenging life and health changes, all of which provide the foundation of her “can do” style and drive. She outlined her key learnings in her book Thriving Authentically: Own Your Personal Power and Make Life Happen.

During our conversation Marelda talks about how the need to be a good girl felt like it was curbing her spirit. Fortunately her unbound self couldn’t help but bubble to the surface and Marelda shares how she’s chosen to walk her own path, in many different ways throughout her life.

You can read more about her story, approach and services at http://www.thecenteredrealm.com

Episode 6 – with Deborah Taylor (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with Deborah Taylor.  Deborah is the founder of Book-Launch Your Business and helps coaches, consultants, speakers, trainers, therapists or any other kind of service business owner to write a book that takes their businesses to a new level. 

She believes a book is a statement of leadership as well as an opportunity to inspire and help others.

During our conversation Deborah talks frankly about how she made many choices in her life based on pleasing others, ending up in a career that someone else wanted. Being stuck in a role that wasn’t right for her led to problems with depression, debt and putting on weight. After years of feeling unhappy, Deborah finally decided to make the leap and start her own business. She is now officially in good girl recovery. Yay! I’m sure you’ll resonate with what Deborah has to say and hope you enjoy listening to our conversation.

Find out more about Deborah and her work at:  www.booklaunchyourbusiness.com

Episode 5 – with Rachel Flower (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with Rachel Flower. Rachel is one of the UK’s most respected business advisors.

A commercial lawyer with over 15+ years’ experience, in 2009 she started a family – and in pursuit of the holy grail of work/life balance – took the plunge into entrepreneurship. She founded Serenwood, a niche consultancy offering practical commercial support to small business clients.

Rachel’s personal passion is empowering & inspiring other female entrepreneurs, especially working mums, and she is the mentor & coach of choice for ambitious women wanting to build, grow and scale sustainable and impactful businesses.

During our conversation Rachel talks about feeling the need to be an extra good girl as she was growing up and how that led her to become a lawyer (rather than the actress and singer she truly wanted to be). Fortunately for us, once she reached her thirties Rachel decided to connect with her inner bad girl and make some powerful changes in her life.

Find out  more about Rachel and her work at: http://www.serenwood.co.uk

Episode 4 – with Carrie Stepp (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m talking with Carrie Stepp. Carrie is a Midwestern country girl who’s full of heart & branded in technology. 

Her life’s purpose is Master Teacher so she’s on a bold mission to inspire, enlighten and empower others to rise higher. She’s invested 22 years as an Award-Winning Digital Course Developer, designing thousands of digital courses for world-class clients including Samsung, Ashley Furniture, John Deere, and Best Western, to name a few.

She’s an International Best-Selling Author, Inventor and Intuitive Creator. As a thought leader specializing in transformative personal and professional development, she’s on a bold mission to turn your fantasies into reality!

During our conversation Carrie shared how tuning into her inner guidance at the young age off 17, led her to make a life-changing decision and put her on a completely different path than she imagined when she was growing up.

You can learn more at CarrieStepp.com.

Be careful what you wish for? Here’s how to move through fear and manifest your heart’s desires

Recently I received this question from one of my clients:

‘When I think about manifesting something I start to panic. I keep getting the words ‘Be careful what you wish for’ come to mind.

I worry that unless I get every detail right and cover every eventuality that I might technically get what I ask for,  but it isn’t actually what I meant or wanted.

Can you help?’

This is a great question! 

‘Be careful what you wish for’ is part of our cultural psyche. Many of us were told this when we were growing up – by parents, grandparents and teachers. And these words can have a powerful paralysing effect.

When you’re consciously using the law of attraction, the most important thing is to be as free as possible from resistance. However, if you’re trying to be careful and ‘get it right’, then you automatically slip into a place of resistance and this is the dilemma.

But fear not. There is a way to move out of resistance and become a master of manifestation.

The fact is you’re constantly manifesting regardless of whether you’re doing it consciously or not. (You can’t NOT be using the law of attraction).

What you have in your life right now is evidence of your manifesting to date.  One of my mentors uses the phrase ‘Having is evidence of wanting’.

Hmmm, interesting.

And challenging.

Particularly if you feel that what you have in your life right now doesn’t reflect in any way what you actually want. Wtf is going on there?

The truth is that if you’re having trouble manifesting what you think you want, then something else is at play. And that something else is your subconscious mind – the deep, mysterious part of your mind that holds all of the patterns, programmes, fears, enchantments and beliefs that have been created during your lifetime.

Some of this ‘stuff’ is helpful, protecting you from danger and making sure you don’t have to tackle every task like it’s the first time you’ve done it.

And some of it, not so much.

The tricksy thing is that the very nature of your subconscious mind means that it’s generally out of your awareness. (If you were aware of everything in your subconscious mind, you’d shut down quicker than an overloaded computer server).

So we need to find ways of bringing our subconscious stuff into our awareness, so we can manifest in a clearer, more powerful way.

Fortunately I have some ways for you to do this. As a witchy hypnotherapist, I spend much of my time delving into the subconscious. And I’m going to share some fairly simple techniques here with you now. You’re welcome!

Heads up: You don’t have to work through all of these tips unless you feel especially called to. Start with the one that feels most compelling for you right now and take it from there.  This is an evolving process. Have fun with it.

Tip One

Look at anything you’ve consciously used the law of attraction to create and reflect on how it actually manifested.

How is it different from what you hoped for/expected?

What does this tell you about your underlying beliefs? For example, say you manifested a new client but then they backed out or became a pain to work with, it could signify a belief that your work isn’t good enough or making money has to be a pain or come at a cost.

The key thing here is to find your own meaning.

Once you have brought these beliefs into your awareness, you can begin to shift them. Actually just bringing them into your awareness and shining a light on them is a big step towards changing them.

You can find out more about how to transform limiting beliefs here.

Tip Two

Reflect on something you have in your life right now that you feel you really don’t want – maybe some debt or a lack of clients. Ask yourself:

If there was a part of me that actually wanted to experience this, what need is it trying to meet?

How do I benefit from this situation?

What do I gain from having this?

Now you might be thinking, ‘Nicola, are you crazy? There is no way I benefit from having zero clients or a shedload of debt.’

But humour me. Give this some time and dig deep. If there was some kind of gain here, what would it be?

Maybe there’s a part of that needs to feel small and safe so it creates a limited financial situation for you to do this?

Perhaps you were brought up in a family that had a lot of debt and it feels familiar to you? If you were financially abundant, perhaps you wouldn’t quite fit in with your family or friends?

Maybe deep down you worry that you’ll be criticised if you make a lot of money/do well in your business, so you unconsciously repel clients?

Spend some time writing down all the possible ways you benefit from your current situation. In a similar way to tip one, just doing this will begin to create a shift.

To take this a step further, think about the part of you that has manifested this situation – the part of you that most is most likely trying to protect you in some way.

Imagine what this part of you is like. What does she look like? What kind of things does she say? Who does she remind you of?

See if you can find a way to send this part of you some love and appreciation for all the hard work she’s done up until now. Let this part of you know that you’re ready to experience something different. You can either do this in meditation or as a letter in your journal.

Find out more about how to work in this way in my book, Heal Your Inner Good Girl.

Tip Three

When you’re thinking about manifesting something and start to worry or the words ‘Be careful what you wish for’ come to mind, ask yourself, ‘What are my fears around this? What am I worried might happen if I manifest this goal?’ and write it all down.

Getting it out of your head and onto paper is very powerful and you can also burn your list of fears too and ask for them to be released from you. You might like to try my special full moon releasing ceremony to super-charge this process.

So there are three ways for your to start bringing your subconscious ‘stuff’ out into the shiny light of your awareness. This is powerful work and it helps to adopt a playful approach to it.

Your next steps.

Want to know more about how you could dive deeper into this to refine your manifesting capabilities and dissolve the old, subconscious patterns that have been holding you back?  Click here to access my calendar and schedule a time for us to have an initial exploratory conversation about working with me in my private coaching practice.

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Episode 3 – with Esther Copeman (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this week’s episode I’m joined by Esther Copeman, the Founder and Managing director of the spiritually inspired skincare company, Concept: Skin Ltd. Having gained over 10 years experience as a Pharmacist and a pharmaceutical chemist, she decided to create products that would work in harmony with the skin, the mind and spirit. 

Her approach to skin care is to seek out ingredients that are as natural as possible and tailor them to help deliver the highest skin care goals that can be achieved alongside promoting balance to the mind and spirit.

This combined approach ultimately enables people to be beautiful and confident on the inside and on the outside.

As with all of the recovering good girls I interview for this podcast, Esther’s story is fascinating. During our conversation we talk about how finally decided to let go of compromising and started to create her own unbound life.

Find out more about Esther and her work at: http://www.conceptskin.co.uk

Episode 2 – with Claire Westwood (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

hyigg-ep-2-coverartIn this episode I’m joined by Claire Westwood – The Seaside CEO (Creative Expansion Officer!)

Claire is a trailblazer for creative individuals making a difference. She’s a coach, mentor, inspirer and navigator for coaches, creatives, healers, and heart-led entrepreneurs on a mission. She is a maverick –helping individuals to live at their highest level of brilliance.

Reinvention is possible at any age – Claire is 50 and was surfing on her birthday and on the zipwire the day after. It’s all ahead of you…..

In our conversation, Claire talks about the unique path she’s taken in her life blending together her background in nursing, performance and now coaching to create her dream business and help others to do the same.

Find out more about Claire and her work at: http://www.facebook.com/TheSeasideCEO/

Episode 1 – with Sophia Lennox (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

hyigg-ep-1-coverartIn this episode I’m joined by my dear friend, Sophia Lennox. Sophia is on a mission to help women overcome self doubt, live a meaningful life and create confidence with soul. Born and bred in the Highlands of Scotland, she now splits her time between her home city of Inverness, and Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire. She provides private coaching, mini workshops, and teaches yoga. She’s also a recovering good girl.

During our conversation Sophia shares her experience of walking the tightrope of growing up as an archetypal good girl and becoming an officer’s wife, a pair of transformational orange trousers and how googling ‘giving it all up’ led to her living the unbound life she’s living now.

Find out more about Sophia and the work she does at: http://www.sophialennox.com.