Episode 14 with Ellouise Heather (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with Ellouise Heather. Ellouise helps women recovering from chronic illness who dread returning to a J.O.B. to find their calling, reveal their true selves and alleviate lingering symptoms.

She’s an accredited Master Coach, writer, and contributing author to the #1 Amazon Bestselling 365 book series. Her motto is, “Be you, be well.” She loves and appreciates walking her little dog, Pepper, in the scenic British countryside and coast.

During our conversation Ellouise shares:

  • How she was made to feel ‘naughty’ about her earliest, Spice Girls inspired, entrepreneurial venture,
  • Why people-pleasing can make us sick and how the need to be a ‘good girl’ led to her having Chronic Fatigue Syndrome,
  • The reason why getting ill can actually be a gift,
  • The mindset you need to move through a healing journey,
  • How your body is always sending you signals and how to identify what they mean for you.

Join Ellouise’s Facebook group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BeYouBeWell.

You are a powerful healer

The definition of healing is ‘the process of making or becoming sound or healthy again’.

For me, the key word here is ‘again.’

‘Again’ suggests that you’re getting back to something. And I believe that means getting back to your truest, whole self.

I’ve always had resistance to the word ‘healer’. Recently I’ve been told that my gift is healing a number of times and it doesn’t quite sit well with me.

Because no-one can heal you. Healing isn’t something that someone does TO you.

All healing is self-healing.

YOU are a powerful healer. We all are.

And healing usually happens through challenge, through discomfort and even pain.

Times when everything feels chaotic and uncertain, times when you’re feeling frustrated or stuck.

These are the times when a part of you is being healed.

Another layer is being peeled back.

And this can feel raw, tender, exposing.

You have to be willing.

Willing to sit with the discomfort.

Willing to let the new settle until it becomes normal, familiar and comfortable.

Willing to carve a new way in the world, a fresh way of being.

And to accept the ripples this creates in your reality, the discomfort of those around you, letting go of what no longer fits.

The process is not easy.

And it’s not linear.

You might feel like you’re getting nowhere for the longest time and then, suddenly, you make a quantum leap.

The fact that you’re here reading this means that you are available to this kind of deep, transformative healing.

And I know that’s a two-edged sword. (Believe me, I regularly say to my teachers, ‘Come on! Really? Surely I’ve done enough’.)

But, of course, it’s never ‘done’.

We’re here to learn, to evolve, to get back to the true essence of who we are.

So today, if you feel called, I invite you to reflect on these questions:

  1. What healing balm does the part of you that’s hurting the most need right now? What would soothe her? What would allow her to open and feel love?
  2. What lost parts of you are you ready to call home? What qualities have you disowned or suppressed? How can you let them know you’re ready for them to come back to you?

Often the answers to these questions are very simple. You don’t have to figure it out in your head. Just ask the questions and notice what comes to you.

Take the next step.

Show willing.

Be available.

I’m with you.

Nicola x

What happened when my throat said ‘Enough!’

My throat gave me a real talking to yesterday. Yes, I know that might sound crazy, but I’m in regular communication with the different parts of my body and yesterday my throat was calling for attention.

She was sore, inflamed and raw.

I used to have a lot of problems in my throat – coughs, infections, constriction – but after years of work around expressing myself more fully, I hadn’t heard much from her for ages. In fact, I was starting to feel pretty smug about how I’d cleared my throat chakra issues.

BUT over the past few weeks she has started to call to me again. And yesterday she demanded that I pay attention.

When I checked in with her, I found she was deeply frustrated. Yes, I’ve done a lot of work around expressing myself, but she reminded me of how much I’ve been holding back.

‘Nicola, everything that’s coming up for you right now? You need to express it ALL. So much gets missed. You need to let it out’.

And immediately I understood.

Because over the past few months, I’ve been feeling pushed to take my work in a different direction, to move deeper. I’ve been feeling like I’m on the edge of ‘something’ and waiting for it all to become clearer.

Every time I go out for a walk, I get new ideas and insights coming through. Some of which I’ve journalled on, some of which I’ve shared, but many of which I’ve put to one side, because I felt I needed more clarity.

And my throat has had enough.


The clarity will come through expressing, through sharing.

And I KNOW this. I even wrote a blog post about not waiting for clarity a couple of years ago.

But I’ve been sitting and waiting. Holding all of this stuff and hoping it would percolate, that it would begin to come together in a way that makes sense.

And what my throat is now telling me is that these ideas, these insights, need to move. They need to be expressed one way or another.

To let go of that old ‘good girl‘ pattern of waiting until it feels right.

So, I’m going to stop waiting for that elusive lightbulb moment and start sharing what’s coming through for me right now – new insights about connection, our bodies, sex, pleasure, power, feminine energy, cycles, healing, flow, space, simplicity, love.

It might not all hang together perfectly (but as I write those words down I can see how they all do).

I’m going to trust that you don’t need me to stick to one clear subject (which I’ve never really done anyway) and that what I share will make sense in some way, at least to some people.

Not just for me, but because I know that you too probably have many passions and interests, that you’re creative and have more than one thing you want to share with the world. (I know that having a specific niche makes sense, but I’m tired of limiting myself and maybe you are too?)

So, I’m going to be blogging more on whatever comes up for me and putting it out there. My throat demands so.

It feels good to write this, freeing, a relief. Giving myself permission to express, to let my ideas flow.

And I send thanks to my throat for giving me that talking to!

Here’s to listening to the wisdom of our bodies (and acting on it).

Over to you: What is your body trying to tell you right now? Stop for a moment and pay attention. What does she want you to know? Comment below and share what comes through for you and what action you’re choosing to take in response.

Your next step: If you’re feeling on the edge of something right now and struggling to get clarity on your next step, let me help. Click here to access my diary and schedule a time for a complimentary discovery call, where we can explore what’s been holding you back and how I can help you to move forward.

Episode 13 with Jessica Dugas (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with Jessica Dugas. A New England girl, currently residing in Alabama, Jessica is a wife and homeschooling mom to six children from 8 months to 15 years old.

She started her company Just Determined in 2013 as a way to communicate and document her journey into a holistic lifestyle and provide inspiration to other families who wanted to do the same. Feeling a calling, she started incorporating coaching mums into her practice. In 2016 she created the Mom’s Online Mastermind, where she helps mums decrease the stress and overwhelm in their lives by helping them find a balance that works for them.

During our conversation, Jessica shares how she spent years putting everyone else’s needs above her own and how this impacted on her both physically and mentally. After a double bereavement, Jessica decided to take personal responsibility for her self-care and started a journey of learning how to prioritise her own needs.

Whether you’re a mum or not, I’m sure you’ll enjoy what Jessica has to share here.

Find out more about Jessica and her work at: http://www.justdetermined.com.

Episode 12 with Caylie Price (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with Client Attraction Coach, Caylie Price. Caylie is the creator of FB Live to Thrive and she teaches you how leverage Facebook Live to get confident, clients and cash.

During our conversation Caylie shares her own experience of trying to fit in and be the ‘good girl’. She talks about how the inner good girl can show up when we’re trying to be visible in our businesses and gives us some simple ways to feel more comfortable with livestreaming.

Not sure where to start with livestreaming? Click here to grab your copy of Caylie’s 15 Simple Facebook Live Topics To Boost Your List Growth And Sales.

Find out more about Caylie and her work at: http://betterbusinessbetterlife.com.au

The Permission Slip – A Masterclass in Intuition

10 years ago I went on a self-development holiday in Greece. I’d wanted to go on this holiday for years and finally gave myself permission to book it.

During the week you had the chance to attend a number of different workshops and one I was attracted to was called ‘Guided Writing With Your Higher Self’. I had NO idea what this was. I certainly had no clear sense of what my ‘Higher Self’ was. But something was calling me to take this class so I did.

In this daily class we did different mediations and visualisations, then wrote about the experience in our notebooks. This was my first experience of doing anything like this and I kept feeling like I was just ‘making it up’, although I did get some very clear visual images coming through to me.

On the last day we were invited to connect with our Higher Selves and allow our pens to be guided across the page to see what emerged. To be honest I didn’t expect much. Some people seemed to be getting pages and pages of clear and powerful statements. I got mostly squiggles! I was determined not to force it. If I WAS connecting with my Higher Self (and I was sceptical of that at the time), I wanted any words to come from that part of me.

Eventually two words emerged on the page: ‘Teach’ and Trust’.

‘Trust’ made sense to me. I was in my mid-thirties and in the midst of an evolving process of trying to discover my way in life.

But ‘Teach’? I certainly didn’t want to be a teacher. I was thinking about teaching in the traditional sense. Standing at the front of a classroom with a group of schoolchildren.

I didn’t imagine that I could teach in any other way. And I certainly didn’t feel I had anything of real value to offer to the world.

But ten years on, I AM teaching. And in a way that is unique to me.

I’m teaching women to connect with their personal power, to be their fullest, most brilliant selves and to create the lives they truly desire.

And it all started from tapping into (and trusting) my intuition all those years ago.

Often we’ve been brought up not to listen to our own inner wisdom. I  certainly spent a long time looking outside for the answers and it wasn’t at all easy to access my intuition initially.

But this is where the magic lies. In that quiet, wise voice within you.

That’s why the luminous Leah Kent and I have put together a special intuition training for you. It’s called The Permission Slip. How to let go of the ‘shoulds’ and start leading with intuition, so you can create the life you truly desire.

In this intuition masterclass, we take you through a process designed to help you:

  • Get clear on what intuition is and why it’s SO important
  • Discover the ways your intuition can get shut down and the impact this has on you and your life
  • Learn 3 simple ways to switch your intuition back on
  • Tune into your body to learn what you need to do (or not do!) next
  • Give yourself permission to do or be what’s perfect for you right now

You can watch the whole class below:

Please comment below to share any insights you experienced during the masterclass and ask any questions you have around intuition.

And if you’re feeling called to explore how you can work with me 1:1 to access your intuition, discover your TRUE desires and manifest them into your reality, click here to schedule a free (completely no-obligation) Discovery Call with me now.

Episode 11 with Carolina Reese (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

Carolina Reese is a documentary photographer, speaker, and educator. Her work focuses on birth, gender, and media literacy issues. Carolina works to change the current narrative regarding women and birth by sharing families’ stories and providing media literacy education for girls. Her next project entails documenting birth within refugee and displaced populations.

During our conversation Carolina shares how it took a huge, traumatic life event to prompt her to say ‘Screw it!’’ and start living the life she desired (rather than following a plan that didn’t seem to be working anyway). Carolina is committed to living an extraordinary life and I’m sure you’ll find her story truly inspirational.

Find out more about Carolina and her work at: http://www.carolinareese.com.


Episode 10 with Jane Binnion (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode, I’m speaking with the glorious Jane Binnion.

Jane is an award winning ethical business trainer based in Lancashire, working across the UK and beyond.
She works a lot with women facing overwhelm and is the founder of The Growing Club, a peer coaching club for women business owners.

She is also a published author, avid blogger and columnist . Her latest book, The Heart of Sales is a practical sales skills guide all about challenging the concept of sales as manipulative, macho and game playing.
A qualified adult trainer, Jane has been delivering workshops for businesses and not-for profit organisations for many years. She has an excellent reputation for talking human and simplifying concepts so that people leave feeling energised, empowered and inspired to take action.  She is also dyspraxic.

Jane is always a joy to speak with and I loved speaking with her about getting older and letting go of the need to be a good girl or acceptable.

You can find Jane on Facebook as The Naked Sales Trainer
Twitter – @janebinnion

Episode 9 with Brenda Gabriel (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode, I’m speaking with the wonderful Brenda Gabriel.

After being run off her bike in 2012, Brenda had an epiphany. Then a civil servant, she was shaken to her core and questioned whether she would have been happy with her obituary had her life ended that day. The answer to that question was a resounding ‘No’.

The opportunity for redundancy arose a short while later and at 8 months pregnant Brenda took a leap into the unknown. Discovering a flair for marketing and PR was a turing point and thus, Brenda Gabriel Biz Gamechanger was born. Honing her craft as publicist, copywriter, social media coach and blogger, Brenda, now a mum of three is on a mission to make her difference in the world by working with other disruptors to do the same.

During our conversation she talks about the expectation to be a ‘good girl’ when she was growing up and how this impacted on her up until very recently. I love the energy that Brenda brings to her work and she has definitely let go of her inner good girl to express her unbound, fierce, passionate self.

You can find out more about Brenda and her work at: http://brendagabriel.co.uk/

Episode 8 with Katherine Baldwin (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with the inspirational Katherine Baldwin. Katherine is a writer, speaker and intuitive dating and relationships coach.

She has been writing professionally for 20+ years, as a journalist and a blogger, and is now writing a memoir, exploring her journey from 40 to 45 as she transformed her life, her work and her relationships and went from being a single, work-obsessed adrenaline-junky to a women who’s in love, living by the sea and doing work that’s aligned with her authentic self.

Katherine now helps other women heal their relationships with themselves and others and change their patterns so they can live authentic, wholehearted lives and find healthy, loving relationships.

I first met Katherine ten years ago when we were both on a personal development holiday in Greece. It seems that we were both right at the beginning of a huge journey of self-discovery at the time. Since then we’ve both left comfortable, secure jobs to start our own businesses. During our conversation I loved talking with Katherine about her decision to make the leap from her high-profile role and her ongoing battle with perfectionism.

Find out more about Katherine and her work at: http://www.katherinebaldwin.com