Episode 20 with Leah Kent (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with the luminous Leah Kent. When Leah struggled with post-partum anxiety, she saw how disempowered she had become in her life.

Though she had been a devoted student of personal development and spiritual growth for well over 15 years, it wasn’t until she’d reached an all-time high of chaos, pain, and disconnection that she made bigger, more lasting shifts.

Leah embarked on a two-year journey to reclaim her sense of self and experienced a profound healing after a lifetime of chronic approval-seeking, self-doubt, and soul paralysis. She also discovered her personal mission to help other women connect with their intuition and personal power to create similar transformations in their lives.

Today, she’s a a Holistic Life Coach, Tarot reader and Usui Reiki healer, devoted to bringing women together in circles of support to experience their full power, divine feminine strengths, and true radiance.

During our conversation, Leah shares:

  • How her family dynamic and growing up as the older sister polarised her in the role of the good girl.
  • And how this resulted in her only wanting to show the so-called ‘good’ emotions and hide the ‘bad’
  • Why becoming a mother made this unsustainable and the specific tools and practices she used to create healing and transformation in her own life.
  • And the power of allowing yourself to want what you want and how to make decisions from a place of pure desire.

Find out more about Leah and her work at: http://www.leahcherrykent.com and click here to download a copy of her free Moon Mantras Guide.

This is the reason so many UNBOUND women mistakenly fear they’re lazy

I hear women call themselves out as lazy all the time. Whether it’s my coaching clients guiltily sharing how they feel they should be doing more or online acquaintances posting to declare that one of their blocks is pure laziness, I’ve heard the ‘lazy’ tag over and over again.

I have a history with the the word ‘lazy’ and it used to trigger me big time. I’ve been called lazy in the past and it has cut me to the quick. Because at the time, I secretly feared that I really was lazy. In fact, at my darkest times I would imagine myself as this disgusting, slimy slug-like creature. I had huge shame around the fact that I didn’t want to be working super-hard or filling every hour of my day with activity. For many years I felt like there was something wrong with me.

But what I’ve discovered in the past few years of cultivating my own, unbound business is that there is no dark well of slothful, sluggishness deep within me. And what I aim to show you in this blog post is that your issue is not laziness, it’s something else completely.

My ‘lazy’ story

Let me start with a part of my story.

Back in the day I spent many years working 9-5 in a variety of corporate environments. And because I’d get up every day to go and sit in an office, I had the perfect defence against being called lazy.

I would show up to work. I would be physically present. Therefore, I was seen (and saw myself) as productive.

But in my time as a seemingly productive member of society, there were many days when I’d sit at my desk, pushing paper around and internally despairing at the mind-numbing drudgery of it all.

And every now and then, I would be unable to make myself go into the office, because that feeling of despair would overtake me. I’d stay in bed, fantasising about running away, doing something completely different with my life or, if all else failed, killing myself.

These were dark days.

But amidst the darkness and despair, at least I could convince myself I wasn’t lazy. Because I had a J.O.B.

Then in 2010, I started my own business and suddenly I had the time-freedom I’d craved for so long.

When I started my coaching practice, one my very first thoughts was, ‘How should I fill all of this time?’ (In other words, ‘Shit! How do I maintain the illusion of busy-ness and productivity now I have all this freedom?’)

Starting with the main intention of filling my time meant that for the first couple of years in my business I worked more hours than I’d ever done in my 9-5. And this wasn’t because I had to. It was because I chose to.

I chose to work all the hours because I didn’t want to appear lazy. What if people found out that I was actually this disgusting, sluggish creature who infinitely preferred afternoon naps to hustling?

So I created endless (and often meaningless) tasks because I wanted to look productive.

And eventually I burned out. What’s worse is the fact that I burned out even though my business wasn’t successful at the time. I was barely making ends meet. After all those hours I’d put in!

Something wasn’t right.

Because I wasn’t the only one.  I could see lots of other women around me who had made the bold and beautiful decision to start their own businesses, women who desired freedom and flexibility beyond all else, and those same women were all feeling exhausted, drained and most definitely not lit up or free.

So I started a journey of discovery into why so many unbound women were unable to maintain the hustle, hustle, hustle work ethic we’re told we need.  And here’s what I found.

The realisation

Most of us were brought up with the idea that to be a good citizen, you should go to school, get a job and fill your daytime hours in a productive way.

So, when you start your business, you carry that idea with you. Must. Work. Hard. Must. Be. Productive.

And then, like me, you start to feel tired. You don’t feel inspired and motivated in the way you imagined you would. In fact, very quickly you find that you’re falling out of love with the idea of having your own business.

‘Maybe I should go back and get a proper job?’ you wonder.

‘What’s wrong with me?’ you ask.

‘Oh yes, I must be lazy’ is the answer you come up with.

Well my friend, no. You are not lazy. You have simply been trying to fit yourself into an old, linear way of doing things. And as a woman, you are actually a magnificent, cyclical being.

You were never meant to have consistent energy levels.

You are designed to ebb and flow. Like the ocean.

To wax and wane. Like the moon.

To move from the light to the dark and back again. Like the seasons.

And what this means is that some days you will have oodles of action-taking energy. You will feel unstoppable. And on others you will simply want to be, to sit in the void and do nothing.

But of course doing nothing is not valued in our society. (Even though spending time in the void is vital for both your wellbeing and the creative process).

Busy-ness is valued.

So women have felt the need to fit into consistent, work-work-work structures. And when they can’t sustain this, they call themselves out as lazy.

What I want you to know, is that what you’ve judged as laziness is actually your glorious Unbound Self refusing to squeeze herself into a box that was never meant for her in the first place.

And the good news is that when you run your own business, you get to choose what you do and how you do it. You get to create your schedule. So you can harness the power of your cyclical nature.

How to harness the power of your cyclical nature

How might you begin to work in alignment with you true nature, rather than battling against it? Here are three simple ideas for you.

1) For the next 30 days, keep track of your energy levels and desires in a journal. Notice the times when you feel like you want to be in action, times when you want to be creating, times when you want to be with other people and times when you want to retreat. Notice any patterns and how they relate to where you are in your own menstrual cycle and the phase of the moon. (For more information on how to harness the power of your menstrual cycle, I recommend checking out Lisa Lister’s wonderful book, Code Red).

As you gather this intel on your own cyclical nature, ask yourself, ‘What would my days/weeks/months look like if I allowed myself to embody the cyclical Unbound woman I am?’ See what answers come to you and give yourself permission to implement at least some of them.

2) Experiment with doing less. Much less. You may have heard of the Pareto principle which, in very basic terms, states that 80% of results come from 20% of actions. What if you allowed yourself to do only 20% of what you usually do in your business? What would you let go of? What are those key activities that harvest the best results for you? What if you stopped doing all of that busy work?

In my experience, an approach of radical non-action can work wonders. Give yourself the space you crave and notice what emerges from that space.

3) Create an unwavering connection with your Unbound Self. Your Unbound Self is the expression of all of you (not just the parts you’ve decided are acceptable). She has no time for the old structures and ways of being. When you connect with her, you tap into a limitless source of personal power and access her timeless wisdom. This gal has all the answers you will ever need and she can let you know the most magical way to spend your time.

To connect with your Unbound Self, simply invite her in. Journal on what she’s like and what she has to share with you. And if you want some extra help with connecting with her, you can click here to download my free Meeting Your Unbound Self Visualisation.

And, if this article has resonated with you, click the share button to share with other UNBOUND women like you.

Episode 19 with Verity Mansfield (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with transformational Life Coach and Energy Healer, Verity Mansfield. Verity is the founder of A Beautiful Truth, and is on a mission to empower women to embrace their inner goddess in the modern-day world; A woman who knows her truths, believes in her inner beauty and understands her unlimited capacity to create real change and real beauty in their own lives and beyond.

After obediently following the Good Girl Rules for many years, Verity found herself with a crippling autoimmune disease, divorced and on the verge of being broke, with two small daughters to care and provide for. What seemed like a crisis was actually a beautiful turning point in her life. Gathering all her resources, pouring herself into a journey of self-healing and self-transformation, and learning to trust her own inner deep knowing, she created her own real ‘rags to riches’ Cinderella story. However, in this story she learnt how to heal, empower, transform, and rescue herself.

During our conversation Verity shares:

  • How we can sometimes play small to stop ourselves outshining the people around us and end up being the support act to everyone else.
  • What it was like to leave her marriage and job with just $136 and two small children.
  • How she said ‘Fuck that’ to the good girl rules!
  • And the life lessons she’s passing on to her daughters.

I had a blast speaking with Verity and I’m sure you’ll love listening to what she has to say.

Find out more about Verity and her work at:


Episode 18 with Vix Maxwell (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with Vix Maxwell.  Vix is a Spiritual and Biz mentor, intuitive Tarot and Angel Card Reader, Angelic Life Coach, Holy Fire Reiki practitioner, Celtic Reiki Mystic Master, Headmistress of Woo Woo School and the creator of New Age Hipster.

Sent here on a divine mission to kick open the musty old spiritual wardrobe, Vix is all about bringing the new age into the now by making spirituality accessible to whoever wants in! Vix is an ex-high school and special ed teacher, she has written a tween and a YA novel and enjoys drinking decaf tea, making Pinterest vision boards and eating veggie pizza with pineapple while watching 80’s movies on Netflix.

During our conversation, Vix shares:

  • How the collective pressure to be a good girl can make it feel unsafe to stand out and her personal experience of that.
  • How she made the transition from teacher to tarot reader.
  • And how she deals with haters from both outside and inside the spiritual community.

This is a fascinating and eye-opening conversation and I’m sure you’ll love listening to what Vix has to share with us.

Find out more about Vix and her work at: http://www.newagehipster.co/lightworker

The 7 signs you’re an Unbound Woman

Are you an Unbound Woman? Well, if you crave freedom beyond all else and you’ve been consciously unbinding yourself from the old, restrictive enchantments you were brought up with, then the chances are you are. 

In fact, you’ve most likely felt like Gulliver for much of your life, tied down by a whole load of lilliputian rules and stories and beliefs. The desire to break free of those ties is strong. Can you feel it?

Tweet: 'When you recognise and embody your true nature as an unbound woman, you access an unlimited source of power within you.' #unboundwoman http://bit.ly/2BkKr0H @NicolaHumberAnd when you recognise and embody your true unbound nature, you access an unlimited source of power within you.

But, the very nature of the Unbound Woman means that she can be tricksy to define. (Because, of course, she’s not bound by traditional labels or expectations). However, there are some very clear (and often uncomfortable) signs that show you are, or are becoming, an Unbound Woman.

1) The unexpected guilt of having a freedom schedule

Being is not celebrated in our culture. Doing is. So having an excess of ‘free’ time can feel decidedly unusual and somewhat alienating.

‘Surely I should be doing something?’

‘Surely I should be working harder?’

These are the kind of questions the Unbound Woman might find herself pondering upon. Because she has consciously created a life where it’s not all go, go, go. She desires time and space and that’s exactly what she’s given herself.

But a part of her can feel guilty about this.

It’s the same guilt you might feel if you were playing hooky from school or taking a sick day from work. You see everyone else rushing around doing lots of ‘stuff’ (most of which they clearly don’t enjoy) whereas you are wandering through the park, appreciating the warmth of the sun on your skin and experiencing the stunning richness of each moment.

‘Hmmm, surely this can’t be right?’ You might think to yourself.

But it IS. Like I said, you consciously created this. The Unbound Woman needs time and space to expand, to tune into new insights and ways of being.

Remind yourself of this. You’re blazing a trail and creating a brand new normal, both for yourself and for all the other women who will be inspired by you (and they will).

2) Feeling isolated

The uncomfortable truth is that very few people will ‘get’ the Unbound Woman. Her way of being in the world does not compute for the majority of folks. This means she can feel isolated and freaky (in a ‘Do I actually belong on this planet?’ kinda way).

And this is when doubts can arise. Because we like to be one of the tribe. In fact, our survival used to depend on it.

You might find that even those close to you, your family and friends, can have a hard time understanding what you actually do, how you make your money and how you spend your time.

So it’s vital to make sure you have people around you who DO get you. The Unbound Woman needs mentors, guides and friends who are on the same path. She needs to be surrounded by other trail-blazing, freedom-seekers.

So, gather your people and call in your tribe, because when you allow yourself to be fully seen, heard and understood, it’s like floating in a warm ocean; you feel beautifully buoyant, completely supported and free to move however you choose.

3) There are no words 

For the Unbound Woman trying to explain what she brings to the world is a challenge in itself.

She has SO much to offer, countless skills, a wealth of experience and a subtlety that can’t be summed up by mere language.

And this can be immensely frustrating.

People ask her ‘What do you do?’ and her heart sinks. The Unbound Woman does NOT have a 15-second elevator pitch.

We can all reel off the various skills we’ve acquired over the years:

‘I’m Nicola and I’m a coach, hypnotherapist, emotional freedom technique and matrix reimprinting practitioner, therapist, writer, energy worker’.

They’re simply labels (and quite the mouthful!)

You can even try to put into words who you help and how:

‘I help women who’ve made the bold and beautiful decision to start their own businesses to uncover and release any old, subconscious blocks, so they can be their fullest, most brilliant, unbound selves (and get well paid for it).’

But still it doesn’t quite communicate the REAL power of what you bring to the world.

What you do and who you are in the world is limitless, luminous and multi-faceted. So it’s no wonder you’ve been struggling with the traditional ways of sharing your business.

You have to let go of the ‘normal’ advice and invoke your power as an Unbound Woman. When you do that and when you trust that whatever you say or write will have a magical, magnetic energy (because it will), you’ll attract your people to you in the most unexpected ways.

4) Your attitude to money can trigger others

The Unbound Woman is very aware of the energetic nature of money. She IS abundance and she chooses to experience this quality in all areas of her life – love, health AND money.

She’s done the work on her own money stuff – the deeply engrained stories she was brought up to believe. She’s cleared a lot of shiz about her ability to allow money into her life and consequently she doesn’t play by the old, limiting rules.

She knows the value of what she brings to the world and she charges accordingly.

She doesn’t want to work all the hours. She chooses to be well paid for what she does. And that’s how she’s set herself up.

Consequently people can get triggered by her attitude to money and her ability to create unbound wealth. Because most people haven’t done the same amount of work when it comes to their money stuff.

This means that as you expand into your most abundant, Unbound Self, you may well attract criticism and downright vitriol from other people about your prices and your chosen lifestyle. This is a drag.

But it’s okay. Because YOUR people will recognise the immense value you bring and will be more than happy to pay you accordingly.

5) The need to make choices and figuring out what you actually want

This might not seem like a big challenge. I mean, heck, we all make countless choices every day. It’s no drama.

But the Unbound Woman is continually making BIG choices.

How do I truly want to live my life?

Who do I truly want to spend my time with?

Where do I truly want to live right now?

Most people cling to the familiar, living their lives doing the same thing day in, day out, year in, year out. This makes life eminently easier.

When there are no limits, choices have to be made and the Unbound Woman questions EVERYTHING.

She’s continually asking herself ‘What do I really want?’ And tuning into her true desires. This can lead her in unexpected (and unapproved of) directions.

It also means she can end up leaving loved ones behind.

This can be deeply uncomfortable. The Unbound Woman is committed to taking radical personal responsibility for every single area of her life. She does not shy away from difficult decisions.

So, yes, figuring out what you want and actually making choices based on that can be challenging, but it also allows you to be the magnificent being that you truly are. Worth the discomfort? I think so.

6) Holding the paradox

The Unbound Woman recognises and accepts that life is inherently paradoxical. She has learned that she is able to hold two seemingly opposing ideas at the same time. And, more importantly, she has given herself permission to do so.

Whereas the Inner Good Girl likes to have everything cut and dried, black and white, with clear, unwavering opinions, the Unbound Woman allows herself to change her mind, to move fluidly from one point of view to another and to contradict herself, sometimes within the same sentence.

And of course, this has its challenges. Some will judge her as flaky, muddled or crazy, but that’s because they’re not able to recognise the paradoxes that lie within them, the paradoxes that lie within all of us.

The Unbound Woman does.

And she is.

A paradox.

As an Unbound Woman you see that any ideas of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ are an illusion. So you don’t get to sit back, comfortably on the ‘I’m right’ train. You have to continually tune into what feels good for you right now. And then carve your unique path accordingly.

7) Sitting in the void

The Unbound Woman has to learn how to sit in the void, the place of not knowing, the in-between.

Whilst the rest of the world dashes around, desperately trying to fill every last space in the day with doing, the Unbound Woman allows herself to be.

Over the years she has found herself in the void time and time again. And although it can feel deeply uncomfortable to reside there (because the urge to do, to figure it out and move forward is strong within all of us), she has recognised that the void is a hugely creative space.

In Gestalt therapy it’s called the Fertile Void, the place we come back to after action, the place we rest before setting off into another cycle of doing.

It’s the place where ideas begin to form and take seed. It can feel muddy and dark and damp.

And often we long to skip merrily past the void.

Because not knowing what comes next is terrifying. So we pick something, anything and go with it.

But as an Unbound Woman you develop a tolerance for sitting here. And as time goes on and you experience the cycle over and over again, you begin to relish the limitless unknowingness of the void.

Recognise yourself here? If you want to step into your FULL power as an Unbound Woman, click here to access my free Meeting Your Unbound Self Visualisation now.

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Episode 17 with Lorraine Pannetier (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with Lorraine Pannetier.   Lorraine is a Food & Lifestyle Coach, plant-based cooking teacher, writer and mum who uses her passion for food alongside her natural intuitive, nurturing and creative abilities to fuel her mission to transform lives through food and inspire thousands of people around the world to Eat More Plants.

Lorraine is one of those people who lights up the room with her smile and spiritual presence and naturally leaves you feeling happier and more motivated than before you met. An eternal student, Lorraine’s passion for learning was evident as a toddler and her current area of focus is homeschooling her 13 year old daughter through her GCSE qualifications over the next 3 years. One day she dreams of studying volcanoes and hopes to see a real life volcanic eruption – from a tropical island some distance away, of course!

During our conversation Lorraine shares:

  • The pressure to look a certain way in the fitness and nutrition industry and how she broke away from that.
  • How to free yourself from restrictive food rules,
  • And how to eat abundantly, rather than depriving yourself.

You can join Lorraine’s Facebook community at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/EatMorePlants/ and find out more about her work at:  http://beetrootbrownie.com/wp/about-us/

Episode 16 with Tanya Dantus (Heal Your Inner Good Girl Podcast)

In this episode I’m speaking with Tanya Dantus. Tanya is a Mompreneur Empowerment Mentor, helping mums release their guilt and find radical confidence, applying their talents & gifts to creatively expressing themselves in the world, making money along the way.

Tanya is also a mum to an adorable little boy, and married for 3 years. She moved to Germany 2 years ago, so that’s been a whole journey of adaptation, although she is originally from Mexico City, and moved & adapted to California prior, and considers herself more of a global citizen (with 3 passports/nationalities to match it!).

Tanya is a certified Yoga teacher, has a Counseling Psychology master’s degree from Pacifica–and loves depth psychology, feminine psychology/the Divine Feminine & Somatics, as well as spending time in nature, writing & dancing.  Fun Fact: Tanya also reads the Mayan Calendar & fire dances!

In this episode Tanya shares:

  • The ongoing process of learning to dance with her inner good girl and her inner rebel.
  • How she learned to see life as a spiral, rather than a linear path.
  • How to connect with your own inherent worthiness.
  • Why traditional meditation is not the only way to tune into your intuition.
  • Why it’s SO important to be guided by your pleasure.

I loved speaking with Tanya and what came out of our conversation. I’m sure you will too.

Find out more about Tanya and her work at: http://www.tanyadantus.com.

Why you need to give yourself permission to mess up

Something that’s been coming up for myself and my clients recently is the dreaded fear of messing up, of making a mistake or (god forbid) pissing someone off.

This fear is one of the most limiting there is.

As recovering good girls, most of us are also recovering perfectionists. We put a WHOLE heap of pressure on ourselves.

I’m guessing that you like to get it right and for a lot of your life, you HAVE got it right. You learned early on that doing well gains approval from others (parents, teachers, bosses), so you put yourself on an endlessly upward trajectory – always reaching for the next goal and very unlikely to acknowledge how far you’ve already come (because I know you’ve come a LONG way).

And then you started your own business. And suddenly everything wasn’t quite so clear-cut.

Because now you’re in charge. You’re the boss.

And there’s no clear, upward path to follow. Some online marketing might lead you to believe there’s a set 7-step system to success, but very soon you realise that’s not the case.

It’s not at all obvious how to ‘get it right’.

And often when you feel you ARE doing it the ‘right way’ and following the rules, you don’t get the results you hoped for.

All of your life you’ve been following a set path, merrily ticking off achievements. And when you start your own business, it feels like you’ve suddenly been thrown into a whirlpool. Information comes at you from all directions, there seems to be NO logic to how you achieve results (it all seems a bit random a lot of the time) and you’re permanently on an emotional rollercoaster.

So far, so so overwhelming, eh?

So why do we do it? Why do we choose to run our own businesses?

Let me remind you.

We do it because we want to be in control of our own destinies.

We do it because we crave freedom.

We do it because we are creative, visionary women.

We do it because we have something important to share with the world.

We do it because we can’t NOT do it.

But despite ALL of this, a lot of the time we hold ourselves back because we’re scared of making a mistake. We’re stuck in that old linear, goal-driven mindset that we’ve been brought up with.

And that will not serve us now.

Because if you’re not making mistakes, you’re not growing.

If you don’t allow yourself to be disapproved of by some, you won’t be loved by the ones who are YOUR people.

And if you’re making an impact, the fact is that you WILL piss some people off. (I know that’s hard to hear. I have the strongest aversion to feeling that I’ve made anyone angry, but it’s something I’m having to get used to as I grow my business).

Don’t let your good girl fear of messing up get in the way of doing what you’re here to do.

Because, the truth is you CAN’T get it wrong.

Whatever you choose to do, and whatever the outcome, it’s ALL learning. And it’s ALL moving you forward.

The only way you lose is if you hold back, if you try to fit the mould and ‘get it right’.

So here’s my advice for you:

Actively celebrate when you feel like you’ve messed up. Acknowledge and feel the feelings that come up and then choose to celebrate. Each mistake is progress.

Create an unwavering connection to your Unbound Self. Your Unbound Self is the part of you that KNOWS. She’s the being that expresses ALL of you (not just those parts that your inner good girl deems to be acceptable). She is your greatest source of wisdom and inspiration. And she’s your greatest ally in business. Together you are UNSTOPPABLE.

Give yourself permission to experiment. Whenever you have a choice to make, adopt a playful attitude. Let yourself try things out. Take the pressure OFF. You learn through doing, so do.Unmade decisions are one of the biggest energy drains there are, so make a choice. (And remember you can’t get it wrong). See how it goes, learn from it and move take your next step from there.

Permission to mess up, granted!

Your next step: Download a copy of my free Meeting Your Unbound Self Visualisation. Click here to get it now.

On letting go

Where are you holding on right now?

Let go.

Lie down on the earth. Your bed. The floor.

Allow yourself to be supported.

And as you do,

Notice where your body resists this.

Because she will.

Notice where you’re clenching,

Where you’re bracing,

Where you’re gripping onto something nameless.

Perhaps it’s your jaw?

Or your right shoulder?

Your belly?

Your buttocks?

Your feet?

Bring your gentle attention into your body.



And let go.



Breathe into those parts that have been holding on for so long.

Make space for yourself.

Gently whisper to your body that it’s okay to let go.

To release.

To breathe out.

Fully and deeply.

She doesn’t have to hold on any more.

It’s okay to be held.

To allow the earth to take her weight.

And be fully, beautifully supported.

Let go.

If you want more inspiration like this, and a space to explore your Unbound Self, come join my free online community – Unbound Living with Nicola Humber. Click here to join us.

Episode 15 with Jacqui McGinn

In this episode I’m speaking with Jacqui McGinn. Jacqui has a background in foreign language teaching in Japan, China and the UK and is a qualified teacher. While living in Japan she began studying spirituality and philosophy. She has been doing ThetaHealing since 2009 and is trained in Subtle Energy Healing, Soul Coaching Oracle Card Reading. She is currently studying space clearing with Denise Linn.

Jacqui’s mission is to empower people to be true to themselves and share their unique gifts and insights with others to empower them too. She is currently researching for a book about narcissism and during our conversation she shares her own experience of being in a relationship with a narcissist and also:

  • How travelling to different countries changed the way she saw herself,
  • Why having a complete mental breakdown helped her identify her traits of people-pleasing and perfectionism,
  • The ‘either/or’ trap,
  • And how the ‘good girl’ can be particularly susceptible to controlling or narcissistic relationships.

I’m sure you’ll enjoy hearing Jacqui speak about how we can feel like we need to be the ‘good girl’ in relationships and how we can break out of that limiting pattern.

Find out more about Jacqui and her work at: jacquimcginn.com.

Links to the Dr Craig Malkin’s books about narcissism that Jacqui mentions in her interview: The Narcissist Test and Rethinking Narcissism